Long Distance Relationship

[YoungLove]

Okay so I've been with this guy for 4 months now, but it's an online-kinda-thing.

I really do love him and he loves me.
We've made plans for him to come here this summer.

We've talked about sex and we've decided to have sex when he gets here but neither of us have a way of getting protection.

I'm 15 and he's 17...
Anyone have any ideas?

[Sirene]

You do not love him. You dont know him to love him.

Everyone has that net thing when they're 15 & they think they love. In a few years you'll see that its nothing.
You're making a big mistake by the way. I did the same thing when i was young.

How can you not just walk into a shop & buy some condoms? Why cant he?
Sounds bogus to me.

[sera300]

Wait until you get to know someone before you fall for them & have sex!!! Trust me you may have feelings for him, but it's not love. Love happens when you begin a relationship day in & day out with one another, face to face.

As far as birth control; if you are old enough to do it you are old enough to buy it.

[mcsgirl]

advice from me would be dont have sex until you've spent a while wiht him in person

i have a longdistance relationshp (for 7 months now) but we met in person before we went long distance and have met a few times since and we still haven't had sex eventhough i know i love him

i agree with sirene for once - dont decide anything until you spend time with him - and if you do spend time with him be smart and done be alone

[PunkChick]

sorry but that sounds ludicrous, you barely know him, never mind having sex with him, you should get to know each other better as a couple and spend longer with each other before you even THINK about having sex. You should'nt do it at all if you have no protection, what if you pregnant?! sorry to seem like i'm lecturing you but be careful!

[madeye]

your feelings of love is nothing more than infatuation of the idea of love.

your only 15, redifine your quality of life and enjoy highschool (as much as possible )

Enjoy your friends

and enjoy your family.

every single person on these boards over the age of 20 will all admit that when they were 15 they understood very little about love.

[PunkChick]

i was no way ready for sex when i was 15 i wasnt even ready when i was 17! okay everyon'es differnt, i'm 19 now and i love my bf to bits i've been with him 2 years now and it's going great and i was with him 3 months before i even kissed him and we only just started having sex this january, it didn't work before but he didn't mind so he waited until i was completely ready and it was great! (dunno why i'm telling you this)but sex should be about love and being comfortablewith ur partner and you can't be if you only have an online relationship, at least meet up first for a few weeks and get to know him properly! =D good luck

[yoe123]

Everything that would make sense goes against this idea of yours. Believe me, I've done that, I'm a guy, and I visit my country a lot. And when I finally get there, the girl that I seemed to love, turns out to be someone else, or someone that I did not know for that matter, my advise is stay away from that, that guy is a smart ass, and you are too young.

[DruityLoops]

someone can be one kind of person when they are online but usually they are a lot different when u actually meet them in person. chatting to someone and 'falling in love' over the internet doesnt match up to knowing them offline and spending a lot of quality time with them in person.

plus, if you think your old enough and mature enough to be having sex, then you should also be mature enough to get your own protection. if you arent, then it just means you arent mature enough for sex

[Thresher_V]

For the poster....I had 3 on line "potentials".....no not at the same time. I married the last one 11/09/2001.....so yes on line relationships can work. 6 years and 3 kids later, we're still going strong. We talked for 9 months - phone and net - then I spent 2 weeks in person with her, 3 months later I came back and brought her to my place. So just keep your wits about you and don't think that "this one's the one". It might take a few tries, but hey so does the "regular" world. At your age, I'd just finish HS before getting serious.