Trust problems - need help here

[kpodo]

my girlfriend and i have been together for over two years now with one four month break up in the middle. the break up was because of myspace. some of you may know already that myspace can be a dealbreaker if you let it. there were some night where i came home drunk and got on there and send messsages to girls(in other towns far away) that i have admited were inapropriate. little did i know that she had my password and the whole thing blew up and we broke up over it. so now we are back together again and i dont do anything like that now but we both have pages. she has (since we got back together) accepted other guys but she wont accept me. my page is open to the public to see and all my friends are people i know. she told me strait up tonight she wont accept me because of what happened before. i said this is a way for us to move past this and a way for me to show her i should be trusted. im pissed cause she isnt even willing to give me a chance with this. we've both made mistakes with trust and im trying to make amends for it. should i just drop this or what? help please!!!

[sera300]

So you BOTH decided to work it out. Rules, the past is the past done & over. You begin here and now. You communicate properly & appropriately w/other women. Now, it's her time to get her half of the relationship working. Her hijacking your computer is worse then what you did, and as far as trust; she has to earn yours and get off the soapbox.

Stop making amends for what happened it's time for her to do her part. If she is not going to, it's time to walk. She is holding you as an emotional hostage, her actions prove to be less trustworthy. Both of you maintain your own web spaces and they remain private no snooping...you change your password on your computer!

[kpodo]

truth is when we broke up she erased my page. while we were apart i built up a new one. she dated another guy for a while when we were apart and he tried to hook up with another girl and that girl called her and they broke up so she looks at myspace as a very bad vehicle for communication and i dont blame her. i told her tonight that if it was such a negative issue then we should erase both of our pages right now. the thing that hurts my feelings is i know she has seen my invite and declined because she has accepted other people since i invited her. i know it sounds stupid and petty but im doing it for closure and trust with the whole situation. i know i ****ed up and i know she did to but im trying to move past it. we like 500 miles apart and we are trying to make it work and i thought this would be a good way to work on trust. thanks for the reply sera

[sera300]

You have to do one of two things; either you both delete the page or you both maintain your pages and be considerate of the other's privacy. But either way you both have to let this matter go, it's the only way to move forward. Holding on to the past will not work this out, just start with a clean slate. Both of you did something not so right, it's not one it's both...good luck!

[demonbuttercup]

I dunno... I just think its stupid.
My roommates g/f was the jealous type...and "made" him delete his page when he wasn't even talking to girls...but of course she assumed he was.

You guys live way to far apart and trust is already an issue..so it probably isn't going to work in the long run.

When you guys broke up...how long was that for???

I agree w/ Sera... you can either drop it and let her have a page private and yours private and not care what the other person "thinks"
Or get rid of them all together.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Enough! This ridiculous behavior has got to be stopped in its tracks. End this 'relationship' now. You two aren't going to do anything more than inflict emotional wounds on eachother from now until the end of time. Sorry fella, but it is time to move on.

[mishsa]

firstly MYSPACE IS soooo STUPID
youre grown ass people. if shes really important, and if your important to her she will get rid of it.

please. I agree with above.. MOVE ON

if u cant be mature enough to realise myspace is a waste then your not ready for the relationship and neither is she

MOVE ON!!!