Showing I love her - how do i do this?

[doinmybest]

Ok so it goes like this, i am a senior in high school and my girlfriend is a junior. we have been going out for almost a year and a half and the thing is she is mad at me because i have emotionally been shuting her out. i played football for 6 years b4 i started going out with her and when we started going out she was always my second priorty. She also played/playes volleyball so the only time we got to spend together i chereshed or however it is spelled. well after football ended all my energy went into her to make up for a years worth of second best and now she feels smotherd and she thinks that i dont love her. but she doesnt understand that i would rearrange the stars for her if just to see her happy for a minute. i trust her more than anything, and i love her more than anything. all i want to know is how do i show her.

[sera300]

Just back off of her and give her some room, sometimes too much attention becomes overwhelming, let her be her own person.

[madeye]

love is not defined by the quantity of effort.

love is defined by the quality of effort.

you don't need to spend every activity and moment together, having some time separate makes the time together more meaningful.

the two of you spent the beginning of the relationship with a buffer of space that is more than the average couple have, you gotta ease into things and not expect a durastic change to be so accepted and successful.

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[VampireKitten]

Loving someone doesn't necissarily mean always being with them (in a literal sense) I learned that from my last relationship. just let her know that you really love her, tell her.

[demonbuttercup]

They are right, she probably does feel smothered and overwhelmed.
She probably feels like you are giving her all this attention....not because you love her and truely WANT to...but are doing it because you feel guilty for putting her 2nd. Which is basically what you said.

[Newtolove]

Originally Posted by madeye

love is not defined by the quantity of effort.

love is defined by the quality of effort.

you don't need to spend every activity and moment together, having some time separate makes the time together more meaningful.

the two of you spent the beginning of the relationship with a buffer of space that is more than the average couple have, you gotta ease into things and not expect a durastic change to be so accepted and successful.

Download firefox ver 2.0 to use as your web browser. It has an auto internet spell checker.

yes I think you need to use it too durastic ? I think you meant drastic

There is a link to firefox with the google toolbar which is what does the spell checking not firefox itself at the bottom of my web page:

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oh and yes try not to suffocate her with attention I just got flamed myself for doing that

[mcsgirl]

i had the EXACT same problem with my boyfriend

he was a lifegaurd and had football practice daily when we first started going out for about 4 months. that made the couple hours we spent together special and i looked forward to talking to him alot more bcuz i missed him so much.

then once football ended and school work let up we both had a lot more time - what we found is that as much as we love each other absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

we fixed the problem by kind of creating more separate lives - i have more girls' nights and he hangs out with the boys more and we look forward to nights together more

[doinmybest]

she broke up with me thanks for all the advice but she said that she loved me but she was no longer in love with me. it sucks i love her so much and would give her the world but that wasnt enough i guess. i know i screwed up and i am wiling to try to fix all my flaws but i guess that is what happens