Makeout sessions: where do I draw the line?

[grizzlygurl]

so, i've heard that guys loose respect for girls that get sexual with them early on. is this true? (by respect, i mean, an inclinination to want a serious relationship.)

i've seen this guy only a few times. and the last time we saw eachother we made out. we both got a little sexually stimulated. but, i purposely didn't touch him down there. and didn't hint that i wanted to be touched down their either.

i could sense that he was somewhat dissappointed.

i like being sexual. and, even if i don't feel like reaching a climax, i still get pleasure if my partner does.

when is it appropriate for me to get him off?

[sera300]

I don't think men think less of a woman or interpret them as loose. I would just wait a bit and get to know him to see what you really want from him. I would not concentrate on "getting him off", rather I would decide if this is a man you want to enter into a sexual relationship with. How long do you wait? Until you are comfortable, it's not obligatory.

[grizzlygurl]

i agree with you.

[Sirene]

I prefer to be with the kind of woman who would wait a bit. Its not very good for me knowing im with the type of girl who would just jump straight into bed with someone.

[aussiedude]

yeh i kno. Its kinda freaky if a girl talks abt sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. She would seem like the slutty kind. Same thing for guys...woulndt girls be freaked if a guy talked abt sex so early?

[Sirene]

Its good to have sex with that slutty type of girl, but its deffo not relationship meterial.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If he's not naked and in my bed, or his - waiting for me, by the 2nd date - he's out! The first date is when we decide yes or no based upon personalities, interests, etc. The second date is the 'test ride'. The trick for him is making it to a third date and beyond.

Males want what they cannot have. Since I love sex, the only thing I was willing to withhhold was my ice-cold chrome-plated steel heart. You can choose between withholding your body, your mind, or your heart. Which is up to you. But stop caring "what guys think" - at the stage you're at now, that doesn't really matter. Live the life you want to live and see who you "pick-up along the way".

That whole "double standard" thing about women who like sex are sluts is so passe', so last century; just ignore such nonsense! Only wimps still cling to such out moded ideas.

[Sirene]

Were you badly scorned in the past? It certainly seems that way.
Something must have made you adopt that frame of mind.
What was it?

What if the guy wants to respect you & not force himself on you by waiting naked in your bed for you?
Most "normal" women would give that kind of guy a swift kick in the gonads.
A guy that's so cocky & confident about himself he just assumes you're gonna give it up for him because he thinks you're really easy?

That kind of guy deserves a beat down. Those qualities are not qualities many women look for.

[unknown11]

sirene just let it go its her personal choice and you should let her think freely,
Anyways some guys will just use you for sex, others will actually try and make things work it all depends on the guy

[sera300]

I also think a point which is overlooked is the age of the person who is going on dates. What I have noticed is; when I was much younger and dated, the standard was to wait for a while. Now dating at the age of 41, if you wait most will not be hanging around. I am not asserting my opinion here, just an observation.