broken and lonely hearted once again

[sexyand17]

well my fellow thread readers my gf has decided that i am not worth keeping around and has thrown me into the garbage like a little doll her daughter got to old for. I havnt had much experience taking the rejection thing but its only eating me up inside because it was a very special 20 month anniversery and that i had forced myself to stay up almost 30 hours just for her because i had worked the following night with no rest. i guess this isnt really a threat for serious questions i just need some peoples support and ideas that will help me get back into the dating scene again. im just pretty confused it all. any feed back whatsoever would be nice. thnks guys and gals. see you on the other side

[madeye]

you can never allow someone else to define your value and quality of life.

as far as im concerned your going to put your head in the right direction, and your going to make personal achievements to regain your self worth and share your quality of life with new and different women.

So enjoy some time making friends and not really worried about dating

break contact with this women, if she wants to remain friends tell her its nothing personal you just need your space for some time to move on.

Be focused on YOUR needs, dont worry about being mr. nice guy, dont worry about being alone or depressed.

Its a faze, your going to be depressed your going to feel lonely, i can reccomend great books to read, or you can look into some new hobbies and or sporting activities.

spend time with your current friends or find ways to make new ones.

and in a few months when the days seem brighter get your ass back here for some dating and seduction tips that we will all GLADLY offer.

Its gonna suck, but greener days are ALWAYS ahead if and only IF you believe they will be.

and i cant stress this enough DONT TALK TO HER, i can tell just by the way you typed this message the last thing that will help you is keeping ANY!!! form of comunication with this women for the time being.

[cyclefreak]

Time heals. Just take some time out for a while to get over it. The feelings will pass, then you will be ready to move on and try again.

[EvilEvilKitten]

This is the problem with dating just the one woman, or man, at a time. Give yourself some room to get over this and then get out there and SPORT DATE as many women, men, as you have time for.

[sexyand17]

hahah thnks for all the advice. unfortunatly i talked to her the other night and found that she was "sorry" and that she took it in the wrong direction. so i dont know if she is actualy sorry or just needs me around to be that guy in her life that acctualy cares about her. she has no other male model in her life so she says but shes got a father and a brother. anyways its complicated. ill get it sorted out and if it means letting go then thats what needs to be done.
see you all on the other side.

[unknown11]

just forget about her, if she is going to drop you like that then she isnt worth your time. best thing to do is to suck it up and move on.

[EvilEvilKitten]

sexyand17 - do NOT go back to her! You will only reinforce her behavior if you do. CUT HER LOOSE! From now on, either a woman steps up or you step off and move on. Do not let women get away with playing basketball with your affections.

Confidently stand your ground and the right one will find you irresitable.

[madeye]

yeah none of us can really say this or reword this message enough.

You gotta see the big picture and do whats best for **YOU** and cut ties.

Your not in a relationship, Take a piss on mr nice guy cause her problems are now her problems and your problems are ones you need to confront by yourself to enrich your future, cause she is no longer a part of it!

you Must redefine your self worth and then start rocking out your social skills to a better future with appreciative women.

It takes time, just be focused on the big picture and ignore this women.

just ignore her, she no longer deserves any emotions, she doesnt deserve anger, hate, love, worry, or compassion.

if she wants to be friends just tell her "maybe later" then end the convo ASAP.

She passed on you, and that is her loss. Dont give something to someone who doesnt deserve it.

[Old Kid]

Remember the first time I got dumped. She was my first serious relationship and the first girl I had sex with on a regular basis. Thought I was just gonna DIE!! Looking back on it, she was a wack job at best & I'm thankful she dumped me. I say run as fast as you can. This woman sounds like nothing but grief. If you are 17 ,as the name sugests, you have plenty of time to find someone who appreaciates you. You say she has a daughter? No offence to anyone here with kids but at 17 that would be enough to scare me off. You're just a kid yourself buddy. Relax & enjoy it. Like madeye said, stay away from her and don't be blinded by your emotions.

[VampireKitten]

Yes...A very similar thing happened to me. He dumped me right before Valentine's Day and our year and a half. That got me down for a while, then I started dating this guy who my now ex doesn't like...but that's beside the point. I know it's hard to move on after being with someone for a long time, but it gets better.