What is "Drama"?

[sera300]

A bit lost on this one; I have noticed in on-line profiles; men state they are looking for a relationship with "no drama". Interpreted it means what?

[HardNgood]

Just means they would like that you leave your baggage at the front door, no tales of woe from previous relationships, no I've always been a victim stories, no life has been trouble for me all my life stories. It means just because we go out on a date and have sex, we are not intending marriage. Don't make a big thing out of going out of the fact we're doing things together.

[sera300]

Thanks for the explaination HardNgood--much appreciated.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Also means - no phone calls, yelling and screaming when 1. I screw up, 2. I date others, 3. I drop you for someone else. Basically the guy wants "nice shoes, lets ****" and nothing more.

Be careful what you wish for, guys.

There are few things more disconcerting than screwing up only to find she hasn't been paying enough attention to you to notice and/or breaking up with someone only to have her say "Okay, thanks." and wander off shedding you like last year's skin only to have her later say "Who?". "Oh, yes. Tall guy, had a parrot, eye-patch and walked with a limp." when you were short, walked straight, and hated birds.

[Old Kid]

Well to me it means someone who makes a mountain out of a molehill over everything. They always have some sort of catastrophe going on that they feel they have to tell you all about. It doesn't have to be about you and them either. Most drama queens also feel the need to stick thier nose in everybody elses lives and problems to. Like, OH MY GOD, so & so did this or that to so & so blaa blaa blaa. It's like they can't come up with enough of thier own problems so they need to get involved with someone elses. I don't see it as a matter of not being committed to a relationship. You can be with someone and even in love but as someone said, the baggage and the BS can get old. I speak from experiance cause my GF has a 17yo daughter that should get an accademy award!

[cjb1981]

Haha, I have to agree with OLD KID, I'd also like to add that, "no drama" means just that. Be honest, don't try to manipulate, and don't blow things out of proportion. Most guys absolutely hate that sort of thing If you must play the victim, gossip, back-stab, and just talk sh*t in general, then do it with your friends. Let the guy just be your guy.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay then - in that case - we do NOT want to hear about your troubles either, guys! Bad day at work? Sorry, but ya know, 'no drama'. Smile, damit!

Just let everything be sweetness and light 24/7/365.

We're all human here.

[sera300]

Yeap, EEK. Maybe these guys when putting in their profiles "no drama" they should remember to put "I also promise you; no drama", seems to be a double standard from what I have seen this past month! Maybe it just sounded like good jargon when they wrote it! But I do appreciate everyone's input, it gives me an idea what they were talking about in the profile!

[Thresher_V]

I do my part not to spread drama by keeping my work and personal life very seperate. Maybe after dating for awhile if the girl's interested, we can swap relationship horror stories... but she must have a sense of humor and not start with the waterworks.

[cjb1981]

Wow, Evil Evil Kitten, what you just did there...DRAMA. I'll try to explain myself a little better. Telling me about your problems is fine, in fact, I invite the opportunity to throw in my 2 cents if you want it. However, blowing them out of proportion is uncalled for. If a girl at work is giving you a hard time, then by all means, tell me about it if you want my input, or if you just need to vent. But, if a girl at work is giving you a hard time, that doesn't necessarily mean that she is "trying to destroy you" so keep all of the hype out of it , OK? Kitten, neither Old Kid, or myself said that, "we do NOT want to hear about your troubles", twisting words and manipulating the situation is most defiantly considered drama. That being said, with the problems that I've posted, Kitten, your opinion has always been an intelligent and original point of view, even if it's not the one that I ascribe to. So, thank you very much