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[Ephemera]

I'm a male, first of all. Anyway, I just got out of a long distance relationship. When we were together, my partner and I were sexual. I am still a virgin, however, but have performed and received hand sex, oral sex, etc. and am overall confident and experiences in those fields. Now, being young, levels of relationships tend to be drastically different between people.

This girl and I are into each other, but are being very casual about it (which is actually really refreshing after an emotionally draining long distance relationship,) but will probably move into that "physical-sphere" pretty soon. I'm not certain, as I have not had a conversation about it yet, though I intend to, where she is sexually. I am positive she is a virgin, and I'm thinking that she's never really been sexually active in any way. What do you all think about going back to a point without having a sexual nature to your relationship? I think it would be difficult, and I'm not sure it would end well. But, the girl is really nice, and she's pretty damn cute, too. Would it be irresponsible of me to go into something with expectations she would be uncomfortable to meet? I especially don't want to pressure her. That's really the last thing I want to do. I'm nearing that point where I need to have that conversation. So, any advice on starting such a conversation? Any advice on not sounding like a horny, chauvinistic ass when I do?

Hmmm...

Thanks

[Ephemera]

Oh, I probably should add that I tend to be a more controlling sexual partner, i.e., I like being the "male." Think hand on head during head. This hasn't bothered my other partners, but I always feel like I have to hold back when meeting new people, making everything a less enjoyable sexual experience. What to do... what to do... Woe is me.

[lovingman]

the best thing to do is to be upfront with this girl and tell her how you feel because most people enjoy it when you are upfront with them but do it in a "conserned about her" format not what you want

[EvilEvilKitten]

Try asking her what she wants and expects from you and so from there. Being honest about your level of experience (effectively none) and your desires (as far as you know them) is mandatory.

[Ephemera]

This is a dead topic - the situation's been over for quite some time. I guess "lovingman" wanted to bring it back up.

Thanks, anyway.