Sneaking a date on her...

[Name Withheld]

I have a friend (no really; this isn't me) who is head over heels for this girl, and she likes him too, but she doesn't want to go out with him yet (nervous, strict parents, I'm not sure). But he just keeps pushing it and pushing it and now he's set up with a friend of hers to "bump into her" at the movies, and somehow he plans to turn this into a date.

I keep telling him he should stop being so pushy (that's how he lost his last potential girl) and respect her wishes for the time being, but he plans to go through with it.

I just want to hear some outside opinions. I know these two could be really great together, and I don't want to see him screw it up. Should I intervene further, or get my fat nose out of his business?

[madeye]

its cool that you want to help your friend.I have extensive knowledge on the arts of seduction and attraction building.

and yet i have so many friends who i wish i could help, but the younger they are the more they refuse to think that stupid crazy **** like that only works after attraction and comfort has been built. alot of guys have this idea that if a women sees how much they like them they will all of sudden decide to like you back......um not so much.

Give him a casual warning that his efforts are going to backfire, then when it blows up in his face and he fails and then maybe he comes to you for advice by choice then and only then is he really ready to listen.

[EvilEvilKitten]

He really should back off. She will most likely start thinking of him as a 'stalker' if he does this kind of thing.

[Name Withheld]

Yep, I was afraid of this. I've gotten her side now, and while she doesn't mind him as a friend, she pretty much can't stand him now. The worst part is I think he still thinks she likes him.

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Poor fool.