Trying to seal it

[dac5039]

Hey,

I just started to hook up with this girl and would like to keep her around but I dont know how to go about it. Shes a partyer and a sexy one and she likes having guys come at her all the time, but mostly just to flirt. She loves to play hard to get and has told me she doesnt want anything serious. I know shes talking to at least one other dude, not to mention every other person with a dick up here. She came to me with an interest sexually and ive been doin fine with that, or at least with what she'll allow. What sort of things should I be doing/saying so that she knows I want her but dont look desperate? Im talking about non-sexual things. Just looking for general advice, im not good with relationships.

Thanks,

daron

[turbo]

where are you living?

I don't know what to say, is she worth trying to get?

Is she trying to play all your guys hearts.

[madeye]

You can never ask a person to change who they are.

All you can do is present the opportunity for her to actively want to choose a change.

If i were in your shoes i would continue to date her. take her out once a week and just have a good time, mix in genuine fun with sexual tension.

and keep dating other women, dont sit around waiting for this one woman to get sick of partying.

Make sure you feel like if she decides to get drunk and enjoy the party light that she will be missing out and another women will be gaining.

don't worry about what she does at a party or who might be hitting on her, just give her a few fun opportunities to enjoy a different style of life, and don't be afraid to take it away from her.

Giver her as much time as your self respect can tolerate and if she doesn't see the value in what you have to offer, than another women will!

don't ever be clingy don't ever be needy and don't ever be desperate.

[EvilEvilKitten]

She's playing the field and sport dating - HURRAY! You get to do the same.
Also pay no attention to other males - you have no rivals - those other males do not matter whatsoever! This attitude alone will set you not only apart but ABOVE all those other guys. You should regard them as "she's playing with her Ken dolls". But you are a man and therefore not the least disturbed by such pathetic antics. Once or perhaps twice a week is fine for now. Madeye is quite correct! Never come across as needy, clingy, desperate, horny, or jealous.

[madeye]

The situation of her flriting with other guys can be used to your advantage.

Introduce yourself to these guys, be comfortable with your competition and joke with your lady "hey..... i think he likes you" and give her a nudge and get playful and witty about all the attention shes getting.

Really almost all women are going to get attention thrown their way. You cant be phased by this and don't be afraid to acknowledge it in a confident cocky way (cocky in a funny way not a jerk way)

the most important thing to remember is don't get hung up on one woman until she herself actively validates that committed interest and shows that her interest in you has caused her to lose interest in the rest... until then she is just potential among opportunities.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, no : these guys are NOT your buddies - they are just the usual sort of hangers-on that women collect - ignore them. Focus on her instead.