To Shy

[xX*Ashie*Xx]

Hey. I recently found out that this guy, Jeff, likes me. I like him alot but we are both too shy to make the first move! He got out of a 7 year relationship a couple months back and that was his only girlfriend he's ever had. The only thing he's done is hold my hand. He hasn't even kissed me yet. What do I do? I'm also really shy when it comes to this kind of stuff.

[sera300]

When you are out & he is holding your hand...stop and talk for a minute, get close while chatting, looking at his eyes the whole time, and then just kiss him. Or get a hug and be certain to give him a quick kiss...

[madeye]

Well i been in this guys shoes and let me give you a fair warning and potential perspective you may regret ignoring.

I got out of a 5 year relationship and 3 months later i met this amazing women.

she thought i was amazing and started spending lots of time together and it was a great 3 weeks of dates, crazy sex, and fun conversations.

Then the reality hit me, i had just spent 5 years devoted to one women, i asked myself am i ready to start up such an intense comitment already. and my anwser was blowing her off and having sex with another women. and this decision had nothing to do with her personality or dating potential. as a matter of fact i look back and i wish she had met me at a later time cause she really was fantastic just piss poor timing.

Yeah i felt terrible about it but i didnt know how else to handle it, her aggressive attraction and interest scared me away.

So be greatfull for the slow start, and if i were in your shoes i would take your time with him dont rush into a commitment make sure you feel comfortable going on dates with other guys and hes comfortable going on dates with other women. let there be freedom for you two both explore and naturally decide that you don't want to date other people. If your not ready to do that it could be a problem and things may not work out no matter how much potential there is.

No matter how amazing of a person you are, you cant expect him to not want to explore and be single for a decent chunk of time. so in my opinion the best thing to do is go on a date once or twice a month. Get to the level of kissing and dont push it further and dont allow him to push it further be a challenge be patient and let things happen naturally. let things slowly develop and let him enjoy some freedom before you allow him to rush into anything he may not know hes not ready for.

At this very moment there may be attraction, and you may be able to push the right buttons and he may not want to stop you, but if in fact hes not ready he may not even know it until you have invested too much of yourself to turn it off without being deeply hurt.

be careful! and goodluck.