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[sexychick_0308]

ok me and my boyfriend were talking the other night..and he was saying that for valentines he wouldnt be getting me anything because he thought it was on the 21st should i be worried that he doesnt want to be with me or has someone else?? its just latley seems like he doesnt want to be with me anymore. i have talked to him about it and everything and he says that he does.but he doesnt really show it anymore..what should i do???

[James77]

So now that he know's it's on the 14th instead of the 21st, I don't see why he can't get you anything now that you told him when it really is. He's not making much sense.

[foxdan]

From what I can gather he is not much of a romantic if he does not know when valintines day is(so the romance will have to be inspired by you)
Ask him to be open either you, that is what a relationship is all about, if he cant get you anything there must be a reason (Money, Time ect) If it is a external factor that dose not involve anther person tell him gifts don’t matter as long as you have him in your life that is what matters because he makes you feel like his valentine all the time.
If he is interested in another person then he was never good enough in the first place
Good luck

[Zan]

Maybe he wont have any money to buy anything on the 14th where as if it was the 21st he might have some money for a gift and a special date or something, and sometimes ppl come across differently from how they intend to~ i know some guys say things like "well im not getting you anything for this and/or this" yet they still do...

As for being more distant/not wanting to be with you... it could be he isnt sending the signals he wants to and aint realizing it~ alot of ppl always think for the worse situation, and many times its just in your mind, dont get me wrong im not saying this is the case but dont let your mind jump to conclusions too fast. Give it a couple days dont call him, just relax have a little YOU time. He will likely call after a couple days, if he asks whats going on, just tell him you are just clearing your head and having a little time to yourself, but he is welcome to join you (if you want him too)

After you have cleared your mind and relaxed a little, talk to him again and be straight up with him, have confidence when you talk it shows you really want an answer... i have seen in friends TOO MANY TIMES they back down and stop persuing their answers half way through the conversation, because they are quick to lose their resolve... and then they spend days/nights wondering the same thing again.

(And to ppl who are really into romance, Valentines day is just another day of the week~ You dont need a certain day to be romantic and show your love to one another.)

[sera300]

Well, despite the excuses it's pretty easy to buy the one you care about a card for Valentine's Day. I'd wait it out until VD day and see what happens, does he call? or does he make it a nice evening together? See what his actions are and decide from there. If you feel he is becoming distant and you have spoke to him about it, either the newness of the relationship is wearing off or he is wanting out...

[demonbuttercup]

Who doesn't know what day Valentine's is on? lol
My b/f and I aren't romantic and go ALL out on Vday. We don't do the dinner thing and buy huge presents.
We've been together for 5 years so far.
We do at least get eachother a little something. Like he'll usually get me a naughty card, lol, and some candy or something.
I do the same, except my card is usually sweet lol. And I'll get him candy... and like a cd or dvd.. something like that... if I want to get him something extra.

[sexychick_0308]

thanks for all the advice..it has helped..but it is now valentines day and he didnt get my annything and i got to spend a little time with him at my house..we didnt do anything special we just watched movies nothing new that is all we ever do..i mean i have talked to him about it and asked him if he really wants to be with me and he says that he does. so i dont know!!

[sera300]

I think you have to decide if you are happy w/your relationship & how he treats you. Very honestly, I realize many do nothing special for the day. But I do feel in a new relationship, it's the thought that counts and doing something special for each other is what is important. At least he could have given you a nice card, to me personally, his lack of action is disrespectful.

[sexychick_0308]

yea well i am happy with my relationship..and i dont want to break up over valentines day..but for like christmas he got me a really nice neckles and ear rings,..so i know that he cares...but yea he could have gotten me a little something but he didnt so ohh well nothin i can do now cause valentines day is over!

[Old Kid]

Well, I didn't exactly forget but... I ordered my GF a real nice pendent neclace online. Ordered it Sat cause I was undecided and procrastenateing. (you know how us guys are) Anyway, it had to come from around Chicago. I paid extra for 2-day shipping but it still isn't here. Turns out it got delayed in the blizzard then got left behind at the UPS terminal yesterday. Hopeing it gets here today. She wasn't upset and it's gotten to be a bit of a joke but I'm a bit dissapointed. This is our first V-day together and I wanted her to have it to show off to the girls she works with yesterday. Her ex tended to neglect her and I sure don't want to make the same mistake. I did get her a real nice card though and as they say "the checks in the mail" LOL