what do i do..

[hatejersey]

To make a long story short.. I have been with this guy for two years, but he recentley moved far away and we fight too much so we ended it but we are still talking. Lately i started hanging out with other people and i actually hang out with a friend and we ended up drinking and in bed. We talk all the time and we are really good friends still but he complains about me talking about my ex. How do you get over your ex when you dont want it to cause drama?

[sera300]

Your ex is just that, leave it in the past and don't talk about him anymore--no drama.

[Blue Eyes Dream]

Time heals most things is a saying that is true to almost everything.

You are bound to talk about your ex, past partners and lovers are a part of your life. Your new partner is just feeling a little jealous. Comfort him, explain that your old partner was an important and emphasise to him the WAS.

Also though ask yourself why you are still talking about your ex, how long ago did you split up? If it was only a few weeks its natural, a few months it will occur occasionally as it will in the rest of your life.

And push come to shove if your new partner resents you talking about your old partner in anyway shape or form, I'd reconsider staying with him.

A new lover should be able to take the sour with the sweet. If he wants a part of your life, he must accept your past.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Your new guy is jealous of the man who lost you? Honey, just move on. Jealousy is not ever acceptable. Dump them both then rise up and walk!

[RF4569]

"Honey, just move on."

Wow...you love to give that advice don't you?

[HardNgood]

It's mostly drivel but she is outposting DancingDoc,something like McDonalds I guess a billion served but no substance ROFLMAO

[EvilEvilKitten]

RF - unfortunately it is often the best advice one can give when there is a fundamental difference between partners.

OK here's the long answer: accepting you as his gf means accepting ALL of you including your past experiences, your emotions, your hopes, fears, desires, dreams, potential etc etc etc. ALL of you. Now if he cannot accept you talking about your ex, which anyone would reasonably expect, then how can he accept all the rest of the 'baggage' without hauling you over the coals for it? And why should you have to put up with that anyway?

So - move on.

[SexySass69]

Or you could ask yourself which is more important to you- memories of the past or the possibility of happiness with the present. Just consider what you have to gain. If the relationship with this new guy seems to be worthwhile, maybe you both would be happier putting the past in the past.

Whatever you do, it's your decision and I wish you the best of luck with that.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If he's complaining about a "rival"who isn't even there - jeez! Why keep him?

[cjb1981]

"Your new guy is jealous of the man who lost you? Honey, just move on. Jealousy is not ever acceptable. Dump them both then rise up and walk!"

Jealous! I don't want to hear about the guys that my GF had sex with before me. In-fact, I can't think of a single person who want to hear the details of previous sexual partners! I'm by no means jealous of them, hell, who's she with now? Me. So there's nothing to jealous of, it's a matter of respecting the person that you're with now, and not constantly comparing them to the others you have been with.