a few different problems.

[GodOfAngels]

Ok.
My and my man have been dating almost 9 months.
I am 19. He is 20.
We didnt start having sex until 6 months.
He had fingered me before, but i had never returned the favor with a blowjob or a handjob.

Even now, I wont give blowjobs. I absolutley can not stand the taste of it. I gag. Although, iv tried 2-3 times when I was drunk. It seems not as bad then.
I know about eatting fruits and what not. This isnt the issue. He doesnt have a problem with it. Ill get used to it eventually.

Basically. It doesnt matter how much foreplay we do. Long or little. After he is inside me. He lasts a maximum of 2-3 minutes. Its horrible. And cant get it back up a second time. Although sometimes he can. But its atleast 8-10 hours later.

Another problem.
It takes me forever to get off with him. Its horrible. Oral or manual.
Its like the sensations have just left my body.
I completly understand. Hands and mouths start getting tired.
Im always impressed he lasts as long as he does.
Then I go through little spurts where I cant get off at all with him.

I love him, so much.
But its getting frusterating on both of us with both of these problems.

Someone help me out???

[EvilEvilKitten]

This is a case of the blind leading the blind.

You both need to masturbate more.
You need to relax so you can have orgasms faster and more easily.
He needs to focus on you and think about that and ignore how it feels - so he can last longer.
You two need to spend more time in bed exploring eachother and experimenting with your sensuality.

[GodOfAngels]

See.
I stopped masturbating all together.
In hopes of it making me sensitive again.
Because I usually use the showerhead.
Its very powerful.
I thought that might be the reason why I cant get off fast anymore.
I just thought i might not be as sensitive anymore.
I used to get off really fast.

And he really doesnt have time to masturbate.
With the hours and how much he works.

Any suggestions?

[dancingdoc2]

> I wont give blowjobs. I absolutley can not stand the taste of it. I gag.
> Although, iv tried 2-3 times when I was drunk. It seems not as bad then.
> I know about eatting fruits and what not. This isnt the issue. He doesnt have a problem with it.
> Ill get used to it eventually.

Please clarify. When you state that you can absolutely not stand the tast of "it", what "it" are you referring to? Precum? Semen?

If the former, you can often just wipe it away and continue.
If the latter, you can give great pleasure and drive him absolutely wild, crazed, and/or straight to Nirvana with oral stimulation right up to the point of a climax and stopping just short of it.

You can remove your mouth and contiunue to finish the journey with a hand job.

A woman does not have to let her guy ejaculate in her mouth, nor does she have to swallow the semen in order to give great oral pleasure. If it is your choice to stop short then let him know your limitation; he must abide by your decision. Now, having said that, the flavor of semen is an acquired taste, just like a woman's vaginal mucus is. If or when you should ever decide to taste or swallow, you can spit the semen into a tissue, later; or, you can sip a drink of water, soda, or wine and more easily down the "mixed drink".

> It doesnt matter how much foreplay we do. Long or little. After he is inside me. He lasts a maximum of
> 2-3 minutes. Its horrible.

What might be considered horrible is if he only lasted a minute! This would then be considered a problem of Premature Ejaculation. That your guy lasts longer, albeit not a long time, is simply a matter of an untimely event. I have addressed this matter several times. Please read the following Sticky Post in the SEXUAL HEALTH: MEN forum: Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation. The "fixes" are the same for both PE and simply climaxing before he intends to.

> And cant get it back up a second time. Although sometimes he can. But its > at least 8-10 hours later.

This is curious. The refractory period or "down time" in between climaxes for a guy is typically within the range of ten to thirty minutes.

During this time a couple can continue the kissing and caressing and all the rest that goes along with making out in order to keep his ardor and arousal at a medium level of excitement. Once the refractory period for your guy has passed, the two of you should be good to go, again....and, again. In addition to keeping his fires burning during his down time, the two of you can be concentrating on your multiple orgasms. Many women find that additional orgasms are only moments away from the previous one--and, that they can enjoy many more than the two or three additional ones a guy can muster.

Question: Have you two been doing all this, or just stopping after his first climax and trying to get him right back into the game? Even if it is not possible for him to be ready again for several hours, this certainly does not mean that the fun and games have to end, as noted, above. He can continue to be aroused and turned on by extending your love making to you for a while longer.

> Another problem. It takes me forever to get off with him. Its horrible. Oral or manual. Its like the sensations have just left my body.

OK, there two more Sticky Posts I would like you to read. They are located in the NEW TO SEX forum:

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

...and particularly:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?


> But its getting frusterating on both of us with both of these problems.
> Someone help me out

Please read the information I've recommended and they give it the good ol' college try several times along with EEKs recommendations, above. If you have additional questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to ask.

Good luck!

Now, on to your follow-up post--

> I stopped masturbating all together. In hopes of it making me sensitive
> again. Because I usually use the showerhead. Its very powerful.
> I thought that might be the reason why I cant get off fast anymore.

This is discussed in the "For Women Only-" Sticky Post. You are on the right path.

> I just thought i might not be as sensitive anymore.

I do not believe it is a matter of a lack of sensitivity as much as conditioning yourself to requiring more intense stimulation. Regardless, taking a break as you are doing is OK as is simply relearning how to enjoy the less intense sensations of your/his touches.

> I used to get off really fast.

And, so you should, again, with some "reconditioning" so to speak.

-Doc

[GodOfAngels]

Wow.
Thanks for the lengthy post.

About the blowjobs. I cant stand the taste of cum or precum.
And we have tried to keep him aroused right after.
Or giving him a little break and trying again.
The problem is that he cant keep it hard.

And I will check out these threads.
Thanks very very much.