Last Question B4 I Let Him Go

[JustHavingFun]

sorry it's a TAD longer than i expected, but i REALLY need HELP

ok so my boyfriend told me the other night that we needed to spend more time together so the next day we went 4-wheeling, it was a BLAST...yesterday he didnt call me all day the night before he told me that he had to work...so when he did FINALLY call i asked what he did and he said "i worked a little, and then went 4-wheeling with David and Aimee" and i was like "well thanks for inviting me...i'm just kidding baby...i'm getting used to this anyway." and he said he would have but since yesterday my dad wouldnt let me go out after dark cuz the temp was dropping, and it was cold that day too, but my dad would have still let me, [ i'm just getting over mono]...he didnt think my dad would let me...and i said "well you couldve at least asked." and he said yea i'm sorry so that night i was on the phone with him i told him straight up "look you act like you dont want me around adn you dont want to be with me, i sit at home breaking plans with other ppl to be with you adn i wait all day to hear you went and did all the stuff we were supposed to do, i'm tired of this **** i cant keep doing it..." he broke down and said that he thought i was getting tired of him and i was like "bull ****! i'm the one always trying to spend time with you adn be with you so thats bull ****..." but we worked it out and he promised to spend more time with me cuz he loves me and doenst want to loose me...but i'm scared it's only going to last for like one day and then go back to what it's been....am i being to bitchy or am i just trying to be happy?? am i being to pushy?? what should i do about him? i NEED HELP!!

[girl12]

I know it is hard, but let him go. You and i both know that if you take him back, things will just get worse because it will show him that you are willing to put up with his ****. You deserve better than what he is doing to you, and if he really deserved you, he would treat you right.

[Beans518]

OK.Are the two of you not spending any time togather at all? Guys will say things to you because they think that's what you want to hear. What girl doesn't want to hear that we need to spend more time togather from her boyfriend? It's not the end of the world. What you do is start spending time with your friends and ignore him for a while. Well not really ignore, but make plans of your own with out him. When you are young it's good to do things by yourself or with just your friends. Trust me. Do that and he'll want to see what you're doing without him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Do NOT take him back. Time to move on.

[Sirene]

Jesus christ. What ever happened to trying hard to make something work?
Dont ditch him, work at it. If you love him then you'll work at it.
When you love someone you dont just ditch them.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Either he steps up or she steps off. He's had his 'wake-up call'. Maybe he'll do better next time but as far as this relationship goes, he's blown it.

Better this than her wasting 5 years of her life, as another lady on this site has done, with a guy who will not step up. Sometimes people tend to hold on too long in the hope that things will get better. Face it - this guy picks her up and drops her at will. If he cared...well you know - so it is obvious that he doesn't really give a damn. So neither should she. As you sow so shall you reap.

[little_me]

y be so negative all the time????? just cos theres somethin went wrong in the relationship dont mean u need finish it right away, yes i agree that sometimes people hold on too long to see if it gets better but if anyone decides theyr gonna hold on then they need to be realistic bout it and decide how long is right for them.

i would suggest that u dont listen to wot alot of these comments say and make ur mind up for urself, only u will know if it could get better... if u love him then its worth givin it a shot but be realistic and dont hold on longer than necessary... how longs necessary?... u decide

[Sirene]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Either he steps up or she steps off. He's had his 'wake-up call'. Maybe he'll do better next time but as far as this relationship goes, he's blown it.

Better this than her wasting 5 years of her life, as another lady on this site has done, with a guy who will not step up. Sometimes people tend to hold on too long in the hope that things will get better. Face it - this guy picks her up and drops her at will. If he cared...well you know - so it is obvious that he doesn't really give a damn. So neither should she. As you sow so shall you reap.

God you're so negative. Have you actually had a long relationship? There are problems all the time & they have to be delt with in one way or another... how do you think dedicated married couples survive?

[Old Kid]

Originally Posted by Sirene

God you're so negative. Have you actually had a long relationship? There are problems all the time & they have to be delt with in one way or another... how do you think dedicated married couples survive?

Mostly what I see is they learn to either tolerate or ignore each other.

[Zan]

or as i have seen by watching/learning from my parents... they work together and face their problems head on.. together as a team/partnership