To the people with online dating experiance...

[cjb1981]

Ok, here's the deal, about a month ago I got a MYSPACE profile. A couple of days later, some random chick contacted me, and we started chatting online (I'm 25 and she's 21). We live about 30 miles from each other, and she's single and so am I, so no problem there either. We get along great emailing and chatting online, but we haven't gotten together for a date, or even talked on the phone yet. I've never done this online dating thing before, and I don't want to be too pushy. I just gave her my phone number. The bottom line is; I know the proper way to ask someone out that I meet in person. But with all of the stuff that you hear about on the news about guys finding women online and kidnapping them and so on, I don't want this chick to think that I'm one of those crazy dudes if I ask her out. So, if you have experiance with online dating, any help would be appreciated, thanks!

[Punkyenvy]

i met my boyfriend on the internet and when he first asked me out i was scared but he wasnt pushy ...he said he would went until i was ready.....you can ask her to met in a public place like a coffee shop or something so she feels relaxed and safe...just take it very slow ..treat her like a friend

[sera300]

I have done on-line dating for about 3 years...First it's nice to talk, but I don't recommend talking or emailing so long w/out meeting the person for real. Why? b/c I have found there were some I thought were really great when talking, emailing, and then when we met...it fizzled badly for many reasons. Get to talking on the phone w/her and chat for a just a few times, not too many though. Then ask her if she would like to get together, pick a day, and let her choose where to meet. Give her options of lunch, dinner, coffee, a drink, no movies, no big date. Make sure it's in a very public place, but where you can talk, then after the first meeting see if she (and you) want to try to get together again. Expect her to meet you out for about the first three times or until she is uncomfortable.

There is nothing wrong w/asking her to meet, but only do it after you talk on the phone. Remember one thing, it's not just the guys out there who are nuts...some of the women are. A few of my male friends have wound up w/women stalking them...don't give her nor expect her to give a physical address or a home phone number until after you have met and BOTH of you are comfortable.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Invite her out for lunch. Meet at the restaurant and talk. At the end of the hour, ask for her phone number. If she gives it to you, you're still on her list. If she doesn't, then move on fella. No harm, no foul. You then move onto the second meeting which should be 'drinks' after work or some equivalent. Maximum time here is about 2 hours. If she kisses you, good. If not, move on.
The thing is to slowly move to more time and increasing intimacy but at her pace. If at any time, she says stop or no or something along those 'lets be friends' line - you simply smile and move on.

[cjb1981]

Thank you very much, just what I was looking for.