HuRtS BuT IdK WhAt To Do

[JustHavingFun]

Heres the story:

Me and my boyfriend has been going out for about two months now. We both love each other very much…

We hang out almost every day if we can…

I’m 17 and he’s 18

He has a car and I do not…

One day last week he told me he was going camping with his friends…

That day he left school early and I was upset bc I waited after school for him and his friend came up and said that he had left early…

He didn’t even bother finding me and telling me…

That afternoon when he called me he said that we were spending too much time together and I told him that when your in love you want to see the person every second you could… I told him I understood that he wanted to spend time with his friends… and honestly I didn’t have a problem with it… the last thing I want to do is keep him from his friends…

So the next day he said he was sorry and he wanted to see me… I couldn’t bc I was at my sister’s and we made plans to see each other the next day

We had sex when I saw him… and I got the feeling the only reason why he wanted to see me so bad was bc he had nothing else to do and wanted sex… maybe I’m wrong idk…

Then just today he hasn’t called me at all and it makes me wonder if maybe he’s off with some other girl

It hurts sitting at home with him not calling and me listening to sad music having all these awful thoughts running through my head

Am I just being clingy and needy or is there something wrong here!!!

[little_me]

ur not just bein clingy or needy, i love ma gf more than anythin and see her every day, theres nothin wrong wi watin to be wi the person u love.

i dont really think anyone can say for sure that there is something wrong, to get to the bottom of it my advice would be talk to him bout it, ask him if hes really truly happy wi the way things r, regardless of his answer u should tell him somethin like "maybe am just bein paranoid but... i kinda feel like the main thing u want is sex... i am realy sorry if am wrong, its just that i love u and dont want to lose u". just summit like thats wot id do anyway. sorry if thats no help to u.

[JustHavingFun]

I’ve already asked him before if he was truly happy and to answer honestly that I wouldn’t get mad and he just grabbed my face and said “Baby, if I wasn’t truly happy with you, would I be here right now…”
But it feels like he distancing himself from me
I also have a feel bad feeling that he’s cheating and everytime I do he always proves he’s not
Maybe I should just not call him or answer his calls when he actually does call me…
I also think he’s ashamed of me in front of SOME of his friends
It hurts to think that he could be cheating on me right this moment and I’m sitting at home crying bc I’m soo worried that he’s going to cheat
I feel like such a fool

[little_me]

well maybe its not worth bein wi him if its just gonna hurt u so much, am not sayin finish wi him right now, but if u really thikn hes cheatin then it kinda eans u dont trust him and wen theres no trust the relationship cant work properly.
wot makes u think hes ashamed of u?

i think if i was in ur position id tell them the way i felt bout them, and that i didnt want to have sex for a while (cos theres more to a relationship than sex), if they complained bou the no sex thing then they aint worth it.

u could try not callin him for a while, see how much he trys to get in touch wi u. this may show how much he wants u.

[JustHavingFun]

I just think he is… I don’t think he would but there’s always that doubt I feel… and I feel bad bc I’m always saying “are you cheating on me?” but he never asks that to me… so what I should do is just talk to him about it…

[little_me]

basically yes, iv sometimes been paranoid bout ma gf, but thats only cos i really love her and dont want to lose her, i cant help it. i explained that to her and she was totally kl wi it.

the only way for u to get over it is to talk to him bout it, tell him how u feel, if any bad feelins ever come up... tell him, he should be ok wi it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

YES you are being clingy and needy - jeez! You went headlong into 'love' without THINKING first. Love is earned. and this guy hasn't done that yet you're pushing it on him. Stop sucking it up and get angry not pathetic. You are completely insecure in yourself with this fixation you have about him 'cheating' on you. If you were secure, you'd not care since you'd know there's no one else like you in the entire world.

This is not the guy for you. Drop him immediately. Yeah it'll hurt but hell, he threw you away the first chance he got. Learn from this experience that love, liking, and sex are not all 'hearts and flowers and litle puppydogs playing in the grassy field' because they aren't. This guy is just playing you for all he can get and you're letting him.

Ladies remember - if he's the guy for you, he'll step-up to meet you just as you'll step-up to meet him. If this does NOT happen then quietly move on!