older guy

[skipgirl]

so i recently ended my relationship with my bf of seven months...he was 20 and i'm 18....now i've been dating this other guy except he's 24 and is about to turn 25 next week...i don't turn 19 till april....i don't want a serious relationship since i'm just gettin out of one but he's kinda lookin to get married soon..he is always bringin up that he wants to settle down soon especially cuz all of his buddies are gettin married....idk if i should continue to pursue this relationship cuz lord knows i don't want to get married now...i just don't know if it'll be worth it to continue seeing him...i do have feelings for him and he is a very sweet guy....should i just see where things go? idk really no what to do.

[girl12]

Talk to him about it. If you are interested in him, let him know what you want out of the relationship and (more importantly) what you don't want. If your takes on a relationship are different, you should not enter into a relationship with him. There are a lot of other guys out there.

Good luck-M

[sera300]

Tell him just what you said here...be upfront w/him there is nothing wrong w/caring (loving) someone but being a two different points in life, one where one is ready to settle down and the other is not, it happens. You may care for him but you need to find someone who is not looking for wife-material just yet.

[Luvs2plzU]

Go out and have some fun/travel...go out and get your education..and go out having some mind blowing sex, BEFORE you get tied down to an anchor for the rest of your life!!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Explain to him that this is 'playtime' for you and that you aren't ready to settle-down yet. Then the ball's in his court.

[skipgirl]

okay so we talked it out and stuff, and he said its okay he understands i'm young and i just wanna have fun.....then he tells me, he's in the air force, that he's gettin shipped to iraq in september...i know thats a while away and we could stop datin by then, but what if we stay together? i like him a lot, but i don't know if i wanna be tied down to him when he leaves....i also don't wanna break up with him right before he goes to war...i'm tryin to keep things as casual and as fun as possible, but i know for me theres only so much i can take, then my feelings start to take over. maybe i'm just lookin too far into the future...idk

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, you are indulging in 'future-thinking'. Just let the relationship roll where it will.