How Do I start it?

[Malik]

I am having relationship problems. I broke up with my girlfriend back in October for a dumb reason. We had been going out for about two months. I recently started going back over her house and we make out most of the time I go over there. I am ready to take it to the next level but I don't know how to bring it up. We normally kiss outside because her mom may be in the house but her mom is not always in the house. I have had sex once before and so has she. Do I just need to bluntly tell her I want to have sex?

[sera300]

Have "the talk"; first see how she is responding to you then gently broach the subject, see her response, and then have an open full discussion (including BC and STD). Think about the answers, and go from there.

[dancingdoc2]

and then...
once all these issues have been addressed, the actual process for progress is to let it happen as it happens. I regularly talk about "Implied Consent" as a way a guy can learn where the woman's boundary is and when it has been extended. It applies to this, also. Just begin making out and test the boundary. When she indicates or states that you've gone far enough then you know the range within which you can comfortably make out.

> I am ready to take it to the next level but

If and when she extends the boundary to something more intimate you will know because when you reach the previous limit she will not stop you--so, you keep on going until she does and then you will know the extent of the new boundary. When she is open to going to the "next level" whatever that might be you will know and all without actually having to ask.

[Malik]

Thanks a lot for the advice