Confidence?

[the_moth]

im the new guy,so my apologies if anythin similars been posted,but anyways my questions this:

do females admire confidence?,cause i wanna ask this girl i knew all my life out who happens to be a friend, but im to scared to do so thinkin itll be too weird and if i get shot down will it ruin the friendship?

any advice would be appreciated

[cyclefreak]

Yes, women like to see confidence in a man.

[the_moth]

yeah,i knew confidence is really important. But how would you approach and ask a long time friend if he/she wants to go out?

[cyclefreak]

Just pluck up the courage and do it.

[dancingdoc2]

Yup, what he said.

Also, understand that the more (people) you ask the more chances you will have both for success--and, failure. Please understand that with every question comes the possibility of rejection so just do not let your "fragile male ego" go off the deep end on this. If she or anybody else down the road says "no", just roll with it and ask someone else when the time comes.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Ahem: women prefer men over mice! YES confidence 'sells'!

[aussiedude]

if she's a 'girl you knew all your life and happens to be a friend', i think shes already too much of a friend to you to become your girlfriend. This sounds a bit weird i know..but from my experience if your relationship with a girl who was your close friend fails, then its just the same as losing a friend. I cant talk to my ex, even tho she was my friend, because it was awkward. If you feel your relationship could work then go ahead, im just warning you of the consequences should you fail.

Would it be awkward already going out with your friend? you kno pretty much everything about each other there isnt much left to ask/answer. And if you two were really meant for each other your relationship would have commenced long ago.

[Hurricane88]

Be confident .. and if your 100% sure you want to ask her .. ask her.

My ex (A none sexual partner) is still my closest mate, we were friends before .. then we got together .. then it broke up and we're still good friends.

But of course everyone is different.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Explain why it would be awkward? Are you ashamed that you loved her? Are you shamed that you two enjoyed eachother? If so then you are not men but little boys dressed up pretending to be men or 'mice'.

You will have regrets in your life. While you may rue these things, you may not be ashamed of them for that would mean you do not accept that you are human and are, therefore, not perfect.

Think why she/he was your friend and why she/he became your lover. The joy, the pain, the elation the sorrow - revel in all of the bittersweet beauty and you too will decide that the game is worth every bit of it!

[the_moth]

lol,i like that whole men over mice thing,gotta remember that one if this situation turn's out positive,but anyway.
it's been like 4 days since i posted this and still can't muster up the courage to do what i want to do ,but i will,but another questions this:
should i make small talk and bide my time till like valentines day? where i wont feel too embarresed should i get rejected or make small talk and ask her when i think the time is right?

i know it all comes down to confidence,but a situation like this with an old friend i would like to 'stand out'i guess and remain good friends whether the turn out may be.if it were any other girl i would've asked already,just so you guys dont think im a helpless with the ladies. lol.