what do i do???

[doinmybest]

ive been going out with this girl for a little over a year and a half. i love her but every now and then she gets a little wierd and starts just questioning me and whether or not i really love her. but the thing is i will admit at times she gets on my nerves but it is never to the point where i dont want to talk to her at all, its more like an annoying habit that drives you crazy. i would go to the ends of the world and back for her. i am attracted to her in every way possable. mentally,physically,emotionally. how do i show her what i feel so that she knows too what i mean when i say i love her?

[dancingdoc2]

From your account it sounds like you are doing it. The rest is up to her and to build her self esteem and sense of self confidence. This is an internal dialog she must have with herself.

[Nagax]

Maybe take her out on the most romantic night of her life (ya know, flowers and all that). Blow her mind away

Also, it would be helpful if you told us the types of things you do for this girl. How do you normally express your feelings for her?

[sera300]

I would ask her point blank about previous relationships. What have her experiences been? She has some insecurity issues and if you can find out what has led to this, perhaps then you can understand a bit better and give some reinforcement. BUT only she can correct the feelings. As far as annoying habits, welcome to relationships...wait until you get married!!!

[doinmybest]

Originally Posted by Nagax

Also, it would be helpful if you told us the types of things you do for this girl. How do you normally express your feelings for her?

i take her out to dinner, take her out to the movies, maybe cruz downtown picknicks, long road trips, hell one weekend about 3 months ago i took to a small mountain village we stayed at a bed and breakfast the whole weekend and one day we went on a nice little hike and then had a picknick the next day we went horse back ridding to a hard to reach lake burried in the middle of a forest and then we went skinny dipping. and then we camped under the stars that night. i by her flowers all the time at random times during the week or month i cook her dinner if she gets sick i go over to her house and put in a movie and make her soup. i try not to say that i love her if i dont mean it when i say it.

as for past relationships her parents were real strict with her when she lived with them so she didnt start dating until after she moved out so i am like her fifth boyfriend and her 3rd serious boyfriend. both other boyfriends she never talks to but her first boyfriend and wouldnt stop calling her he happened to come by her place one day while i was there i beat the crap out of him after he threatened me. she now has a restraining order against him. her other boyfriend is a guy that i went to school with and i know him he is a goodguy and now him and i are friends. he is engaged and married and we have a poker night once a month with a few friends. as for her she doesnt care about him in the least bit the most they say to each other is "hi how are you?"

[EvilEvilKitten]

She's insecure and you are going to have to constantly re-assure her - forever. Fine if you like that sort of thing.

Does she work? Does she have a career? If so, you can build up her self-esteem by reminding her of the good things she does at work. Promotions won etc. If a student, then exams and courses passed will do.