i gave her my virginity, now i think she's lost interest.

[cjb1981]

Here's the deal, the title isn't exactly accurate, but it is an attention grabber, so I went with it I'm a 25 year old guy, who was waiting for the right girl, after a LONG time with no dating or anything sexual at all. Don't get me wrong, she's totally into sex, the only problem is, she would rather watch tv or mess around on her computer than talk to me. If she comes over to my place, we watch a movie or tv, then we have sex (sometimes), and she leaves. If I go over to she place its the same thing. The bottom line is that she pays more attention to the tv, than she does me. I really care about this girl, and I've told her so, she says that she cares for me too, but she really doesn't act like it. I'm tired of her not caring or acting like she cares, what do I do? Also, I treat her like she is the whole world, I do anything that I can to make her feel better when she's bummed out. I buy her flowers and take her out to dinner to places that I would rather not go. I hate tv, but when we are together that's what we do. Everything that we do is stuff that she wants to do. When I suggest something, she blows it off and says that she doesn't feel like doing that. I kind of think that maybe she doesn't respect me, and that is definitely a problem. I know that things are not ok, and that I have to talk to her about this, but when I try to, she starts acting condescending. In short, she talks to me like I'm an idiot. I've heard that I should act like a jerk to her and that will get me some respect, but I'm not really that kind of guy. Some feedback would be wonderful, thanks so much!

[OriginalBoks]

talk to her man. basically tell her exactly what u wrote... that seems to be an all around answer to a lot of questions on this board.

[sidjtd]

I know exactly how you feel. Im not physically invovled with this girl but Im her first real boyfriend and she's not ready to give her virginity yet. Nevertheless, she was so infatuated with me she got a plane ticket to visit me (I wasnt interested in long distance)

But anyway, we are together now and now that we are, she doesn't act like she cares. I thought she was cheating or something but it seriously doesnt seem that way.

I dont get why some girls just suddenly show a huge lack of care. Its a mystery and hopefully you finding an answer will make me better understand my own situation.

[dancingdoc2]

Unfortunately, I do not have an answer to your situation; however, I have seen this same behavior with guys who after wooing, corting, bedding, and marrying their wives, have children, go out and spend most of their free time with their buddies doing guy things with cars, sports, or whatever, while the mother and child are either on the sidelines watching from afar, or stuck at home doing whatever without any help.

[cjb1981]

thanks, but like I said, she can get pretty condesending and she talks to me like I'm a child when I try to bring this kind of stuff up.

[Browser]

If you are unable to communicate, are you sure you want to be with her?

[EvilEvilKitten]

I can tell you exactly why she's behaving this way. Both of you. You guys are mooning all over your girls like lost sheep and they've lost all respect for you. You have become toys for them to play with, when they feel like it, and not men who should be taken seriously.

Turn off the tv, stop begging for attention, take her out drag-racing or whatever; assert yourselves! Don't beg but demand! Got it? These women are waiting, and hoping, for you two to produce some testosterone.

[cyclefreak]

Don't be a jerk, just be assertive.

[EvilEvilKitten]

One can demand without being a jerk. Simply refusing to back down is sufficiently demanding.

[snowman]

I can tell you exactly why she's behaving this way. Both of you. You guys are mooning all over your girls like lost sheep and they've lost all respect for you. You have become toys for them to play with, when they feel like it, and not men who should be taken seriously.

Turn off the tv, stop begging for attention, take her out drag-racing or whatever; assert yourselves! Don't beg but demand! Got it? These women are waiting, and hoping, for you two to produce some testosterone.

Bang on the money this is what u want to be listening to its clear signs of you turning into a 'nice' guy not as in doing nice things for her but turning into a bit of a wuss, start acting like a man before its 2 late