gifts

[Newtolove]

Well there is this girl we met last january when I went to England and we got on great. she came to visit me in Italy this summer and I intend to return to england shortly. I want to send her a xmas present, we are not gf and bf but we are more than friends and yea she is awaiting for me.

what would be appropriate to give her. I have a white gold chain with a cross on it I could have the cross removed and a heart or something put init's place with perhaps her name engraved on it and mine too...

any input would be appreciated

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay - the rule is "a lady never accepts from a man what she isn't willing to remove for that man." This means sweaters are out.

The chain with the cross is borderline but still okay as it indicates a respectful interest in her. If you were to go with the engraved heart however - would not be okay as it implies a more intimate relationship than you currently enjoy - do you see? Send her the necklace as it is, hun.

[Newtolove]

well you see it is a bit more complicated than that. first off she is not religeous so i wanted to eliminate the cross and am not sure if white gold is appropriate for a woman. we would have had sex already had my grandmother not interferd but we were intimate down to naked...

oh and another thing - I was given for my confirmation by a great aunt a gold bracelet with a plaque and my name engraved on it. she told me this was to give to my future girlfriend (obviously not yet) but this is in Italy. is this a custom upheld anywhere else in the world ? (England mainly in mind)

perhaps having the plaque on the bracelet changed for one with her name on it might be appropriate ? I asked her mother advice as to neclace or earings and she said nelace

[Luvs2plzU]

I think at this stage of your relationship, give her a necklace BUT no engraving with your initials...just give her a nice gift without any encumberances with it...she'll know from whom she received the gift..your initials won't be required...nice gift..stay under the radar for now...

[EvilEvilKitten]

Why wouldn't white gold be appropriate for a woman? Very odd idea. No the rule about gifts from men to women is the one I told you earlier. Even if she isn't religious, the cross is okay but you can replace it with a plain heart or some other item that has no significance but is pretty. NO INITIALS.

And she isn't your girlfriend yet, baby. So cool your jets.

[Newtolove]

hehe unfortunately a number of other people have been throwing water on both our jets