Secret Love for freinds girlfriend

[BigCountry1679]

Ya i've been in love with this girl for 8 months now and the love is so strong im in high school and i play guitar and write songs and so far i have written around 50 songs for and about her but she just doesnt seem to really be into them the reason is well because she is going out with someone right now he's one of my friends but were not so close right but i mean i am so deeply in love with her i dream of her at night i pray that she will someday be mine i mena i would do anyhting in the world for her i dont ask for anything in return just that she would love me and im madly atracted to her she has dark brown hair hazel eyes lightly tan skin about 5'11 and the most awesome personality in the world doesnt let nothing bother her we have a similar taste in music its just that she is going with him he doesnt know i love her but a couple of weeks ago he was feeling uncomfortable bout me calling and emailing her so much but i cant help it my heart burns with desire for her i love her so deeply and nothing can turn my mind form it we have talked about my love she's tryed to help me get over it but it just fueled the fire even more my close ones have told me that i should let it go if its meant to be it will happen and my other family says wait her out my mom said you dont know what could be going through her mind she could be torn between you both. But i just wish she could feel the pain im feeling the pure love that flows through every song that i write and now recently i lost my grandfather 4 days before x-mas and she's showing me sympathy i've listened to a lynyrd skynyrd song "i need you" more than a 1,000 times ronnie van zant sings about how he wants this girl more than just a piece of leg and thats what im feeling about her so if anybody knows some advice or could help me out it would be much appreciated cause i pray to god everynight and i think he's getting tired of it.lol

[browneyedgirl]

Stop telling her how much you love her. This is going to freak her out. When I was 14, I had a similar situation - except I was the girl. The guy was totally in love with me, told all his friends about me, wrote things for me, etc. The problem was... I just wasn't attracted to him or interested in him as a boyfriend. I liked him as a friend, but I didn't want more. In fact, me and one of his friends really liked each other. Well, this all started at the beginning of 9th grade, and by the end, he'd cut his hair and started wearing different clothes and suddenly I found myself attracted to him. I wanted to give him a chance, so I asked him out and we dated for a couple months. I liked him, and we got along great, but he still liked me more than I liked him and he was resting all of his happiness into whether I went out with him. He said the same kind of stuff you do - he didn't want anything in return, didn't even need me to love him, he just wanted to be with me. But, that wasn't OK by me. If I was going to go out with him, I didn't want him to just worship the ground where I walked, it had to be an even exchange and I needed to feel something for him. So, I broke up with him. We stayed in contact. Months later, I realized I really cared about him and I was at a place where I wanted a boyfriend. I realized I was really lucky to have someone who really cared about me and loved me, and I decided to give things a shot. That time, it worked out, and we were able to have a good relationship.

So, my advice to you is to stop begging for her affection. Let her be with her boyfriend. If you're meant to be, it'll happen. If not, it doesn't. At this point, it sounds like she's not interested and you aren't getting anywhere with her except looking pathetic. Girls aren't attracted to pathetic. Girls are attracted to grounded and in-control. So, stop drooling over her. Stop playing her the songs you write.

Try dating other girls, or at least get some new hobbies. If she wants to be with you, she'll let you know. Otherwise, sometimes love ends up being unrequited and there's not much you can do about it.

Good luck!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Drop it. Just stop. Because while you are mooning over this 'unattainable' there is most likely someone who is mooning about dreaming of you and you are oblivious. Very bad. This is the problem with the 'hearts and flowers' kind of ideas esp for beginners - they get so wrapped up that they stop paying attention to other opportunities around them. Grow a set, guy, stop 'poaching', and get out there!