should i give up?

[esmith]

I have recently met a girl that I have an interest in and asked her out. It took me a considerable amount of time (two months) and courage to ask her out, but when I finally asked her out she agreed. I asked her out on the 16th and told her that I would give her a call to sure up a date. That was the last time that I have spoken with her even though I have called a few times with no response. Her family is Jewish and I understand that Chanukah's a busy time being that it is eight days long, but shouldn’t I have heard from her by now? She gave me her number and agreed to go out, it’s pretty obvious that I am interested in her so why have my attempts to contact her failed? Was she just trying to avoid rejecting me and not answering my calls hoping I get the message? I’m 23 and haven’t been on a date in three years and haven’t been in a relationship in five. Should I take this as another rejection or continue to hold on to the belief that she is interested in me as well? Is this type of behavior generally accepted? I just hate not knowing and possibly lying to myself.

[browneyedgirl]

Move on. She's not interested, and this girl is not worth your time. If she really liked you, she would find time to call you or answer your calls. If for some reason I'm wrong, she will contact you when she's not so busy. Stop calling, it will just make you seem desperate.

[givmeinfodamnit]

Stop calling, move on. If she ends up calling you, but not for a date, then cut her loose imediately. Dating is like being in sales. You have to throw out a wide net, and you'll get many rejections, but eventually you will land a huge account.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If she wanted you, she would have found a way to be with you or have contacted you by now. Drop her and move on.

Next time remember - either she steps up or you step off.

[esmith]

thanks for the sound advice. i found out that she is not interested.
why would someone do this? its not funny or kind.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Many women avoid giving a guy a straight answer for fear of hurting his feelings, or fear he'll create a scene, or from fear that he'll just take what he wants if she irritates him enough - so they return a 'soft' answer that is no answer at all.

[cyclefreak]

Some women are just insensitive towards men as well, and don't seem to care that they have feelings too.

[EvilEvilKitten]

LOL, yes, well cycle, hun, I've been accused of being insensitive because I have made my responses clear. Some guys do not enjoy being told "no".

[esmith]

I have no problem being told "no". Tell me honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly and I will respect you for your frankness. Nada surf was right

[cyclefreak]

Ture, EEK, that some men have trouble accepting no for an answer, but I stand by my earlier comment. There are some women who are insensitive, and who seem to treat men as objects, financial objects that is.