Spending the night at a gf's after the deed

[Justsomebody]

I'd like to know what to expect if I spend the night at a gf's place after we do it. What do you like to do?

How long do people tend to cuddle together after orgasm? Cuddling naked is good.

Do you take a shower together after you are done? I take morning showers but I can move them to the evening to do that with the gf.

Do you get dressed after sex in the evening? If so, do you just put on underwear or more clothes?

What do people tend to wear to bed after sex? Can I expect to sleep naked? I don't sleep naked but I do want to try it with a gf. If I'm not naked, it's ok to be in my underwear, right? I normally sleep in my comfy pjs (no briefs under them) but I don't want to wear them with a girl. In other words, I'd much rather wear my underwear to bed with a woman then pjs.

I like to sleep on my stomach but I'll try and sleep on my side spooning her. Only problem is I know I will roll over. Do women usually like it better if a guy rolls over onto his back or his belly? I'll sleep on my back instead of my stomach if it's better for the woman. Do women really like to sleep with their heads against their guy's bare chest? That's surely worth sleeping on one's back with no shirt.

Btw, I know there's not a "right" answer to these. Everybody is different which is why I might get totally different answers here. My woman might be different. Just give me an idea of normal habits.

[emily_11]

everything you put is really good,

reread your post, lol

shower after
cuddle
watch tv
you can put boxers on, so your not flying in the wind, so to speak.
just do what your comfortable with, and if your iffy about the situation, ask your girl

[cyclefreak]

Whatever feels good, or seems right for the two of you is ok. There are no hard and fast rules.

[Westles]

I like to sleep naked with my girlfriend, its nice waking up touching her warm soft body, but most of the time i sleep with underwear and she wears pj's

[browneyedgirl]

I like sleeping naked with my boyfriend... but we also wear clothes sometimes. Usually I sleep over at his house, so I'll wear one of his T shirts and his boxers, and he'll wear boxers. I love wearing his clothes to bed. We cuddle after sex and usually a little bit before we go to bed, but when we actually go to sleep we each have a side of the bed. We don't shower at night... I prefer in the morning. I'm not that crazy about showering together, so we usually take separate showers.

My boyfriend's my best friend, so this stuff just comes naturally and it's what I'm most comfortable with.... I think in the situation you won't really be worrying about it (I hope).

[dancingdoc2]

Here's my thinking on the matter:

> I'd like to know what to expect if I spend the night at a gf's place after we do it. What do you like to do?

Take your lead from her and what she offers or suggests. Do not force your expectations on the situation; although feel free to offer a suggestion about this or that.

> How long do people tend to cuddle together after orgasm? Cuddling naked is good.

You have that right! Of course, cuddling anytime, clothed or not is generally a good thing.

Cuddle as long as it works. If going to sleep is the next step, then perhaps after several minutes lightly caressing as your bodies and emotions return to normal you can either just let the light caressing fade away and drift off; or, she might turn around on her side with her back against your chest in order to do the same thing. There is no right answer, just what works in the here and now.

> Do you take a shower together after you are done? I take morning showers but I can move them to the evening to do that with the gf.

Adopt a more flexible attitude. I suggest bathing separately or together before making love and especially if oral sex is in the offing.

As to whether or not you shower after would seem a matter of comfort. In many places humidity added to your already sticky bodies might make the rest of the day or night a bit uncomfortable. In these situations, then prudence dictates taking a shower afterward.

> Do you get dressed after sex in the evening? If so, do you just put on underwear or more clothes?

Please stop being so cut and dried about all this as if every activity must be compartmentalized. There is no one way of doing any of these activities.

The real answer to your question hinges upon what the two of you have planned for the rest of the evening.

> What do people tend to wear to bed after sex? Can I expect to sleep naked? I don't sleep naked but I do want to try it with a gf. If I'm not naked, it's ok to be in my underwear, right?

Loosen up and explore. Of course it is alright to sleep naked. Of course it is alright to sleep in your underware. Of course it is OK to put your PJs (all or in part) back on. Just let me leave you with this one thought, that is if you do decide not to sleep naked, she may feel like you are placing a barrier to your shared intimacy especially considering that her refractory period can last many hours compared to the minutes a guy's lasts.

> I like to sleep on my stomach but

It doesn't matter what you do after you spend some time nurturing the afterglow. What does matter is giving the afterglow its due. All too often a guy will climax, cough, roll over and begin snoring. How wrong is this? Let me count the ways. As long as you do not omit or overlook this important aspect of making love, then when or how you drift off or get up and begin getting about the rest of your day (assuming you made love with the sun up) doesn't much matter.

> I normally sleep in my comfy pjs (no briefs under them) but I don't want to wear them with a girl. In other words, I'd much rather wear my underwear to bed with a woman then pjs.

PJs are all well and good when you are home alone or when not necessarily making love. I would be surprised if she let you put on any shorts or pajamas. Hint....

> Do women really like to sleep with their heads against their guy's bare chest?

You missed a very important lesson on human behavior. Women are very touchy-feely creatures. Nuf said.

> Just give me an idea of normal habits.

The answer is to explore, learn together, and develop options that you can call upon for different times. You are correct, there is no one method or approach. Do what works and feels right to each of you in the moment. Lastly, please know and understand that making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. This is a partnership so treat it as such and work together finding your way as you go. This is why it is so important not to be so rigid and inflexible. Leave your PJs home or in the drawer and your clothing on the floor for starters and finishers.

Enjoy

[Expressionless]

Hey thanks for asking this question, I was kind of thinking about some of this stuff as well. Although I prefer morning sex to just before going to bed sex. But then again anytime sex is good lol.

[Justsomebody]

Thanks for the replies. I am completely open to anything so we'll see.

I almost always wear pjs but NO I will not be wearing them after having sex! They are ideal for kids, single guys (like me so far) and other guys when they aren't doing anything kinky but hopefully mine will collect dust

Yeah, the showering and all that stuff depends on the circumstances. I'll figure it out.

Some think that guys don't like to cuddle but I want to cuddle naked.

Whether we put on any clothing after cuddling I guess depends on whether we do anything away from bed before going to sleep. If we cuddle and then go right to sleep while cuddling, I'm sure we'll be naked all night. If we go off and watch tv or something like that, I guess I'll look a little dorky in my briefs but that would be better than having it "swinging in the wind". When we go to bed after that, the gf can decide whether we take off the undies when getting in bed or just wear the underwear to bed. I'll be happy and comfortable either way as long as she's comfortable.

Yup I like to sleep on my stomach but I like the idea of her and I laying on our backs together dozing off to sleep. I'll try that and maybe spooning too. Laying on my back keeps my junk free for both of us to play with so change is good. If we roll away after awhile, so be it. Then we can roll into each other through the night with our parts hanging out. I guess one of the fun parts is learning what works best.

[aussiedude]

when i slept with my ex we used to snuggle up to each other under the blankets (it was the middle of winter and it was freeeeezing). She would put her bra and panties back on. Then we would get into the spooning position (we would both be tired and horny by now) and i would feel her under the panties and bra. I waited until she fell asleep before i went to bed. She told me being groped as she fell asleep feel great

The next morning we did it again!!!

good times

[Hurricane88]

Usually, me and my girlfriend cuddle together under the covers and just watch tv naked .. depending on the circumstances we might take a shower .. but not every time.

I usually just put my boxers back on and she usually puts her underwear back on along with one of my american football jerseys.

And we'll just cuddle and go to sleep together.

> I like to sleep on my stomach but I'll try and sleep on my side spooning her. Only problem is I know I will roll over. Do women usually like it better if a guy rolls over onto his back or his belly? I'll sleep on my back instead of my stomach if it's better for the woman. Do women really like to sleep with their heads against their guy's bare chest? That's surely worth sleeping on one's back with no shirt.

To be honest, we will cuddle and go to sleep .. she usually turns her back to me and I will put my arms around her .. we toss and turn in the night .. I might turn onto my back or turn my back to her .. if I do that she usually turns over and puts her arms around me.

So tbh, just whatevers comfortable