great guy, small penis

[sweetiegrl82]

Hello everyone, I'm new here-
I've been dating this wonderful guy for almost 3 months now, he's perfect except for one thing-he's got a small penis. And that's not even what really bothers me, I've had small before, & it really isn't all that important. The thing is that all he wants to do is have oral sex. I don't know if its because he's self concious or what, even though he's fine with me giving him head, and he recipricates but I just don't feel satisfied without "the real thing". Can anyone give me advice on how to get him to enjoy sex, or do you think this is a lost cause? Any advice is appreciated, thanx

[the dude]

start filling his head with propaganda about how you hate large dicks and they don't do it for you. too painful or something to the effect of that. then maybe mention how his size would be perfect. might take a while, might not work at all, but make him feel good about himself and he'll have a raging boner in no time.

[coveresid]

It may be a lost cause since there really isn't anything he can do to get larger. If he is self conscience about being small, then it is another problem. The fact he is willing to give oral is good. But if you need the real thing up in you, then that is just a problem. he could always use and extension, be good for you but then probably not much feeling for him. Maybe he could use a dildo on you, but that may make him feel worst.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by sweetiegrl82

Hello everyone, I'm new here-
I've been dating this wonderful guy for almost 3 months now, he's perfect except for one thing-he's got a small penis. And that's not even what really bothers me, I've had small before, & it really isn't all that important. The thing is that all he wants to do is have oral sex. I don't know if its because he's self concious or what, even though he's fine with me giving him head, and he recipricates but I just don't feel satisfied without "the real thing". Can anyone give me advice on how to get him to enjoy sex, or do you think this is a lost cause? Any advice is appreciated, thanx

Let's be specific here. You are talking about two issues: (1.) his small penis, and (2.) a lack of sex.

You say that you have no problem with #1. So let's drop that issue.

As for a lack of intercourse, have you asked him why he's not into it? If not, I would start with that. Just ask him.

[browneyedgirl]

I agree with ua322. The issue isn't his size, it's sex. It's possible that he is insecure about sex because of his size, but that's just one possibility, and there might not even be a correlation. Either way, you just need to communicate with him about the issue. It's possible that he's wants to do oral because he just thinks that will be more satisfying for you - many girls love oral, but aren't crazy about sex. Have you had sex yet? Maybe he's just nervous, or worried that he won't last long. Maybe he just doesn't feel ready to have sex with you yet. If you have had sex, do you initiate sex and he turns you down, or what? Have you told him what you just told us?

The only way to figure out what's going on, and correct it, is to be honest with him about what you want. If he brings up the size issue, then tell him your size is fine, but that not having sex isn't fine with you. I bet once you tell him that you want sex, not just oral, he'll be willing to go along with you. And if he's not, you need to find out why. Good luck!

[sweetiegrl82]

Well good news, ironically this past weekend we did have sex, unfortunately I don't remember all that much of it (I was a little drunk) but now that its been done, I'm sure it'll happen again - hopefully-thanx for the replies

[ua322]

I'm amazed at how many relationship problems concerning sex that seem to be supposedly "solved" by people getting drunk. That seems to be a common theme on this board.

[Luvs2plzU]

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