The Age Old Question...lol

[wildchica121]

So everyone always debates this and i'm sure it's already been discussed here but hey i'm new so i'll post it up and see what i find out! So what do u think, is there really such a thing as too much of an age gap? how old do u think is too old? And what's the biggest gap in age difference you've ever encountered in a relationship?

[navysunfire]

My mom and her 3rd husband are almost 12 years apart, but their love is stronger than most relationships I have seen, so I can see why age wouldn't matter.... Plus, as I said, it's her 3rd marriage... so their maturity levels are higher than if a teenager was dating a 30-something.

[EvilEvilKitten]

25 years. It is a problem only if there's exploitation or abuse going on. Otherwise - no one else's business!

[wildchica121]

i agree, 11 yrs for me

[gentle pull of your hair]

Chemistry!
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Got to love it!

Does this person rock your world? Are being realistic? Is this long term or just a fling?

[browneyedgirl]

I think it really depends on the person's age. Under 18, a year or two can make a HUGE difference. 12 year old and a 14 year old are at completely different places, or a 13 and 16. For the majority of life, though, I don't think it makes that much difference so long as everyone is happy.

[wildchica121]

let's just say gentle pull ur hair, to be cliche, i haven't felt this way about anyone in a long time. He makes me feel like none of the bad things in life matter and he makes me appreciate my blessings, not to mention see things in a new light. He's one of those passionate artsy types...lol i'm head over heels,giggling little girl... annoying as hell huh? i am so gone on cloud nine lol. Problem is there's so much against it, my parents would kill me if they ever found out, oh not to mention that for the moment i'm kind of his friend with benefits...nice twist huh?

[SexySass69]

I try to keep it as close to my own age as possible. However, my fiance is about six months younger than I am- all the benefits of the younger man without a lot of the annoying setbacks.

[browneyedgirl]

Originally Posted by wildchica121

let's just say gentle pull ur hair, to be cliche, i haven't felt this way about anyone in a long time. He makes me feel like none of the bad things in life matter and he makes me appreciate my blessings, not to mention see things in a new light. He's one of those passionate artsy types...lol i'm head over heels,giggling little girl... annoying as hell huh? i am so gone on cloud nine lol. Problem is there's so much against it, my parents would kill me if they ever found out, oh not to mention that for the moment i'm kind of his friend with benefits...nice twist huh?

Well, how old is he and how old are you? Because you are worried about your parents, I'm getting the feeling that you're probably pretty young. Is what you are doing legal? I'm usually not a stickler about law, and if it's a difference of a year or two and you really like each other, that's one thing. But, if you're 16 and he's 25 or 30, I think that's a big deal because you two are at very different points in your life, want different things, and ultimately he's most likely taking advantage of you, particularly since you are just friends with benefits rather than even having the illusion of a relationship.

I think friends with benefits is a bad idea in this situation, a really bad idea. I think friends with benefits can work great, but only if both people are on the same page and neither wants anything beyond that. It sounds like you would definitley want a real relationship with this guy, but he might not. If you want more out of this, you will get hurt. You can't just stick around having sex with this guy hoping that he will suddenly see you in a new light and want to be with you forever. It's just very unlikely that that will happen. Move on and just be his friend, or have a talk with him about how you feel and tell him that you want something more.

[wildchica121]

well to start off, he just turned 29...and i'm gonna be 19 in january...so roughly an 11 year difference. So no, nothing illegal, it's just my parents wouldn't exactly take to the whole idea quite well...cause as mature as i might want to think i am, in their eyes i'm a girl starting college and he's a man (and what interest could a man have in a young girl if not for the wrong intentions?). We are at different points in our life, but idk somehow it works...at first i was very cautious because i figured he was taking advantage of me, but more and more i seem to think the opposite. There is no label with us, i mean we're friends, but it gets so confusing because we talk everyday, when we're together he holds my hand and all that stuff and he drives almost two hours to come visit me on the weekends sometimes, and he never comes expecting sex (he's always told me if i dont want to then i dont have to). It still feels like friends with benefits, and i do want more. i should probably walk away, getting hurt is almost guaranteed i think. (i guess it's just easier said than done)