Help!!

[BlondieThePoet]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and have aquired 2 children. In that time, him pleasing me sexually, well he just dosent. I love the thought of being able to step out and get a piece without him knowing, though I haven't and won't. I think its the thrill of the thought of getting caught. When we first got together, our sex life wasn't earth shattering, but it was good... we had to sneak around and have sex in weird places because of our parents... And now that we have two kids we just dont and cant really do that anymore. So what can we do to bring the excitement back so I enjoy making love to him again?!!! Please someone help... He dosent please me in bed to begin with, but now the sex isnt even fun!! Its the same old same old. We've done it all, tied up, doggy style, anal, in the shower, on the floor on the chair... please someone give us something new to do!

[sk1983]

Have you tried different places, such as public places? The ex and I did that to spice up our sex life, and it worked pretty dang well. High school parking lot (after hours), on Colorado State's Oval (part of the campus, after dark), etc. Use your imagination. Also use that 'fear of getting caught' aspect that appeals to you to spice things up.

[Luvs2plzU]

One thought would be to try some couple counselling...like a tune up on your car or bike..it re-acquaints the two of you to each other and if both are open minded, it can add the missing pizzz-azzz..

[EvilEvilKitten]

You are addressing the wrong issue. You two need counseling, as Luvs2 said, not some new 'trick' or 'toy' or 'venue'. In your post it seems you two have stopped 'seeing' eachother as living breathing human beings rather than a pair animated machines.

[BlondieThePoet]

No counseling needed. He left this morning. Walked out on his kids with out so much as even a good bye. He kissed our oldest but didnt look at our son. Thanks for the info everyone who replied.

[Luvs2plzU]

Originally Posted by BlondieThePoet

No counseling needed. He left this morning. Walked out on his kids with out so much as even a good bye. He kissed our oldest but didnt look at our son. Thanks for the info everyone who replied.

WOW...sorry to hear that....counselling is very much needed regardless...it will help you with the adjustments...best of luck!

[gentle pull of your hair]

together for 5 years and have aquired 2 children. (don't know what to say about that)

He's clearly just as frustrated as you are with the situation.

There is gone for effect, and then there is gone AMF never to seen from again.

So, if this is the first time that he has left, well you should still go to the couples counseling as suggested.

You both need to find the root cause of what’s going on, and then determine if you should stay together or split.

Sometimes the right thing to do is just move on.

[Newtolove]

no explanations ?