Your Opinions

[Casimir]

Just curious what people's opinion would be on this. What would you think if a person did this to you.

Ok about 3-4 months ago I was tring to get involved with this girl. We went out a couple times and made out no sex. She said she was not interested in a relationship at the time. So I accepted that no problme can understand it. Then we kinda stopped talking...well she stopped talking to me I would call her see how she is doing and stuff, because I told her I would be a friend. Well found out she had a boyfriend when I called her to invite her to my bomfire. She was like "I can't talk to you anymore my boyfriend just got out of jail and does not want me talking to you ever". So I said fine, and hung up the phone and deleted her number off my phone.

Well on thanksgiving day she seen me where I work at and came up to me and said sorry for what she had done and how bad she felt for doing it...yada yada. So I said no problem was not to worried about it. I got her number again and she got mine. She called me that night and we talked for about 3-4 hours about everything that was going on in life. Well the next day I went to her house and watched a movie and we talked...she asked me why I was so perfect and stuff like that. We made out a little bit then her ex-boyfriend called so I left cause she did not want him to do anything to my car. I stayed the night at her house the other day and we just went to sleep watching movies with a couple kisses.

So what would any of you think about this situation if it happened to you. Would you think maybe she is interested or just toying with you again? Any feelings are welcomed.

thanks

[EvilEvilKitten]

What kind of a crowd are you hanging out with? An ex-con for a boyfriend, even an ex-boyfriend is bad news. I'd go elsewhere, friend.

[dancingdoc2]

What she said, and, why are you interjecting yourself into a relationship, good bad or indifferent? Three is a crowd and you are already worried. Either wait for her to be unattached of her own volition or go on and find someone who sets her standards higher.

[SexySass69]

I thought that the opportune words to cue your exit would have been "boyfriend got out of jail" and "she didn't want him to do anything to my car." You may like this girl a lot, but you should probably cut your losses before the boyfriend cuts you.

Good luck!

[Casimir]

Well the female crowd I seem to hang around seems to be emotionally unstable ones. It seems once again she beat me to the punch, and has stopped talking to me again. I am guessing that she went back to ex-boyfriend. Some day I may realize that I can not always try and help the ones who really don't want help, but want sympathy for their lives. Thank you once again for all your opions. I wish things could have worked out better for me as in finding a girl friend but as SexySass69 put it better cut my loses before ex-boyfriend cuts me.

Thank you again for your responses I hope I can help and give good advice here like people give me

Casimir

[Luvs2plzU]

Originally Posted by Casimir

Some day I may realize that I can not always try and help the ones who really don't want help, but want sympathy for their lives.
Casimir

We'd all like to be that "white knight in shining armour" to come and save people...in relationships that will backfire sure as all get out!!...it breeds codependancy...just keep looking for a well grounded girlfriend..they are out there...

[RickDalton]

If you like this girl, don't let the threat of an ex stop you from getting her.

She seems interested in you. Tell her you're interested too, but if she isn't ready to say goodbye to her ex once and for all, you see that as too much baggage to continue seeing her. Then walk away.

Once she realizes she has to work to get you, she'll likely become more attracted to you than ever before.

Cheers,

Rick

[Casimir]

Thanks for your Opinion Rick. I am still talking to her and she has not mentioned her ex at all since that one night.

Michael

[NizeGie]

The original post sounds like the premise for a movie. Unfortunately, you've got a lot riding on the genre:
- If its a dark horror movie, you're going to get killed.
- If its a noirish modern thriller, you'll probably survive, but you'll learn from the experience: perhaps more than is good for you.
- On the other hand, if it's a romantic comedy, things are looking good. Unless ... shoot, maybe the convict is the romantic lead. Uh, oh. Was he wrongfully accused?

[ua322]

Originally Posted by Casimir

Thanks for your Opinion Rick. I am still talking to her and she has not mentioned her ex at all since that one night.

Michael

I'll be honest, I'd get rid of her number and try to break off contact. There are red flags popping up all over the place with this one.

No disrespect to RickDalton, but I COMPLETELY disagree with him. Don't pursue her. She is going to get you in trouble one way or another. You sound like a level-headed guy who deserves more.

This girl has been maintaining a relationship with a guy who was in jail and who is apparently predisposed to vandalization and violence. That speaks volumes about who she really is. Don't be fooled by the heart-to-heart conversations.