Is this a normal date / sex?

[Jiffylube854]

I'm very new to dating and sex, and seek your advice.

I know that "normal" is very relative, and what passes for "normal" could vary widely, and every couple has their own things that they enjoy. However, I'm just looking for advice on the following date and whether it's within the realm of normality.

Okay, so I emailed her and asked her if she wanted to come over and cook dinner. She asked if she could bring anything, and I told her wine or dessert.

So she shows up with wine and dessert. I greet her, describe what we're having, and put her to work chopping veggies while I prepare the meat. We talk and banter a bit in the kitchen, then pour some wine and sip and talk whilst everything cooks. I put some jazz on while we eat, and we have a conversation over dinner, then sit down to watch a bit of TV.

After our show was over, we messed around and had sex for two hours. The first time I came, the second I did not (she came repeatedly). We lounged a bit in bed, then got dressed and had dessert while watching a bit more TV and finishing the wine. Then at 11:30pm we went to bed in our underwear, woke up in the morning, and had more sex. Then I took a shower and she got dressed and left.

I guess I am wondering if this is kind of a normal dinner date, or if you do something differently, or if there's anything kind of stupid I did or didn't do etc, or how I could make this more romantic.

[toyfairy]

So are you bragging? Sounds good to me. The question you should be asking is for her....ask her if she had a good time. She will most likely tell you. Questions like this can't be answered insightfully by strangers who weren't there. Communication with your partner will always be key into finding out what she enjoys.

[Jiffylube854]

Haha, not trying to boast. I like this girl a lot, and have not been seeing her very long (5th date). So I want to "do things right". I did ask her if she enjoyed it, and of course she said yes...but I am nto sure if it could have been made better. Or maybe I'm just looking to get date ideas from you guys, i dunno.

[Newtolove]

well sounds like you are doing fine

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sounds good so far! Add or substitute one item at a time, sensual massage for example, every date. Spend some time not engaging in sex but going on picnics, bicycle rides, even shopping.

[SexySass69]

Okay, now here's the question, if you're not trying to brag then what are you trying to do? That definitely does not sound normal, it sounds better.

I think that you're doing just fine!

Happy humping!

[browneyedgirl]

That sounds like quite a pleasant date. If you're planning on this being a long term relationship, my only advice is maybe to slow it down just a little. Like EvilEvilKitten suggested, try different things. Make sure it's not all sex. It's great that you're doing other stuff together, like watching TV and cooking.... And definitely communicate with each other. Good luck!

[sk1983]

Last dinner date I had ended with a hug. Lucky bastard...I mean...good for you!

Normal is a relative term. A purely sex-driven relationship isn't health, believe me, had several in the past year and now have no real desire for sex, less it actually means something. Communication is key.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh I don't know that 'meaningless sex' is all that bad, sk1983. To me sex means laughter, fun, giggles, hugs, smiles, telling jokes, warmth, and having him slyly distract me afterwards so I don't demand more from him than he can deliver right at that moment. In other words sex = party and who doesn't like a good party?

[cyclefreak]

Wow, that sounds like a pretty good dinner date to me.

If you want to make the experience more meaningful, perhaps you could concentrate more on the sensual aspects than just the sexual. Explore your sense of touch with each other.