A Way To Catch Her Eye....

[BigTONY]

I need help on asking a women to take the first step we have been friends for a few months and she acts interested but not interested, and sends mixed signals......how should i interpert the signals, She also goes out on a lot of dates and has many male friends and finally she is 3 years older than me. what should i do or say to find out if she will even go out with me?!?!!?

Sorry many questions for a distressed man any help would be appreciated!!

[fescue]

well I think you likely anticipated that someone would say you should take her for a coffee, tell her you need to discuss something with her and tell her straight up that you find yourself more and more attracted to her and would like to ask her out on a "formal" date. Interpreting signals is ALWAYS dangerous and usually never accurate.....tellher and ask her. worse she can say is no and I am sure she would do that in a kind and understanding way

[EvilEvilKitten]

Mixed signals, huh? Time for you to cool off. Move onto someone else. Either she steps up or she doesn't. Never accept 'mixed signals' for you it has to be all or none! Women like decisive men - not puppydogs begging at their heels.

[RickDalton]

Originally Posted by BigTONY

She also goes out on a lot of dates and has many male friends and finally she is 3 years older than me. what should i do or say to find out if she will even go out with me?!?!!?

Sounds like YOU are the one who thinks you aren't good enough for her. Start by dating women you feel confident around. Eventually you'll realize what works and you won't count yourself out before you've even started trying.

Cheers,

Rick