It's been 4 months..

[mindyourmind]

Basically, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months and all we've done is made out. He's always at my house and we're always alone in my bed together. As I said, all we've done is made out and I really want to move it forward. I've talked to him about moving it along before, and he's reacted quite well, but we haven't done anything about it. When he's over, I try to give out little hints. Like I'll put my hands on his pants and things like that.

I don't know what to do anymore. I need some advice.

[Westles]

When your making out, just caress his lower body more, when you know hes got a boner, just go for the kill and put your hands down his pants, i am sure he wont stop you

[mindyourmind]

Every time I attempt to do something like that, he just thinks I'm going to tickle him.

[SexTherapy]

Hahahahahahahaha. Sorry, but the tickling thing is so funny . To up the ante on sex...hm...well im a guy so what my girlfriend does is tickle me...then she pulls my pants down when im laughing. Sorry if that doesn't help.

[mindyourmind]

haha! that helped not at all. i'm not looking to have sex with him quite yet. i'm looking for like.. other things. i dunno.

[dancingdoc2]

Please read what I just finished writing for another thread:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/sexu...tml#post157819

> > just go for the kill and put your hands down his pants, i am sure he wont stop you

Maybe yes, maybe no, although unless he is wearing pants with an elastic waistband, the belt and button or snap and zipper or more buttons probably will inhibit progress in that direction!

Better me thinks to talk to him about what might be inhibiting his progress. You might learn that he is afraid of being discovered, afraid of going too far and not being able to stop, afraid you might reject any further advances, and the list in his head could go on and on.

I am also a guy and I'm here to tell you that most of us try to push the envelope as far as we can. Traditionally, it is the woman who sets limits and boundaries. She is also free at any time to up the ante' so to speak and extend the limit of what is permissable at any time. He may or may not understand this. If he does, he may not know how to test the limit.

This is all handled by what is known as "Implied Concent". The woman implies that the man is free to fool around up to a certain point that she has determined is enough or in which she is comfortable and then will stop him by either saying something or stopping his hand from doing more.

OK, so how does a guy know when she may have extended this limit? By going to the previous limit and finding that she no longer stops him. Consent is again implied that he can go on until he reaches the new boundary and is stopped. Within the range of these limits the couple is free to make out and explore. And, so it goes.

> I've talked to him about moving it along before, and he's reacted quite well, but we haven't done anything about it. When he's over, I try to give out little hints. Like I'll put my hands on his pants and things like that.

It may be that he is just not ready for more.

One of several approaches might be to follow through on your hints. As an example, if you place your hand on the mound under the fly of his pants, begin to move his penis around side-to-side, after a few moments hesitation that gives him time to respond if he is going to. Be fully prepared that this will often be enough to cause him to "cream his pants".

Another thing you can do is to place your hand over his scrotum and then cup it. You can very easily fondle and massage it and the testicles through his trousers. If you know you have the scrotum within your grasp, consider kneeding the skin of the sac. between your thumb and finger(s).

If he is responding favorably, even giving passive approval, rather than trying to pull his pants down, begin by undoing his fly and slipping a hand inside. If this goes well, then up the ante' and slip a hand inside his underware or pull his penis out into the open. If he does have some inhibitions about all this, once he is comfortable with this level of intimacy, full exposure should soon follow.

[Newtolove]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Another thing you can do is to place your hand over his scrotum and then cup it. You can very easily fondle and massage it and the testicles through his trousers. If you know you have the scrotum within your grasp, consider kneeding the skin of the sac. between your thumb and finger(s).

If he is responding favorably, even giving passive approval, rather than trying to pull his pants down, begin by undoing his fly and slipping a hand inside. If this goes well, then up the ante' and slip a hand inside his underware or pull his penis out into the open. If he does have some inhibitions about all this, once he is comfortable with this level of intimacy, full exposure should soon follow.

That sounds like a good approach

[EvilEvilKitten]

You want to "move it along" and yet not have sex? Oookay. So it is just cock-teasing then?

[mindyourmind]

dude, all we've done is kiss. i'm not going to go from kissing to sex. that's just not right, to me.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Nevermind then.