Need Help Bad!!

[ineedsdahelp]

Okay.. well this is a long and complicated story i have to tell.. i have been with this girl for about 3 months.. she is 14 almost 15 and i just turned 17. Not that big of an age difference if you think about it but still there is an age difference. We fell in love with eachother and found ourself making the next step by having sex. Yes this was something that we had planned and both agreed to so i didnt feel like i was forcing her into anything she didnt want.
Well after that we were walking around our high school and heard some rumors going around about me bragging to all of my friends about it and all of this.. and to tell you the truth i never talked to anyone about it. i am not the one to kiss and tell and to tell some high school buddies about me having sex is just bound to be a disaster.. well back to the story. a teacher heard these rumors and went to my girlfriends parents and told them about them.
She was immediately taken back to her house and given a long talk.. i dont know what was said because i wasnt allowed near the house and am never allowed to call there or talk to her. Her father said if he finds out that i have talked to her then he will switch her into a different school system.. but then he went on to say that he doesnt care who she dates at age 16... I asked him if that meant me also and he said he didnt care who she dated .. that means if i waited for her then it would be over a year of waiting..

My questions to you are: Would you have reacted like this? How old were you when u first had sex? Should I wait for her? I just need any advice you can give.. thanks!!

[jmprox]

Wow, that does sound a little nuts.


I had sex when I was 16 for the first time, granted that wasn't long ago though.
Um.. sounds like her parents have made their position pretty clear, and you're not welcome around anymore.. Every set of parents have their own standards and will react differently, seems like they're pretty uptight.. or at least, have set her as "kid" as long as shes under 16.. and don't or can't let her be doing things adults would do..

You're 17.. you'll be going off to university or college or whatnot soon enough, I don't think you should necessarily "wait for her", like exclusively, because thats a freakin long time and people's feelings change. Sounds like you two are over for now, move on with your life and maybe next year give her a call up and see how shes doing.. but hey, maybe you'll find someone else who you like even better! .. or (don't intend to be mean) she might find someone too.. you never know! Sounds like you don't have much choice though, so don't waste your time just waiting for a girly you can't have yet. Go ahead live life, see what happens next year.

Live now, not in the future!

Good luck with everything

[ineedsdahelp]

well actually we both have a lot of friends against this and have figured some ways to see eachother and still keep in touch.. and i figure that after a month or two of little talks here and there might give her parents time to cool off and maybe think a little more rationally about it all