When to kiss? I have a date..

[I_need_advice]

Hey,

Well i have this date with a girl, i've met online, we talked trough msn for a shortwhile and seen eachothers picture.

We are planning on dating tonight she will come over at my region and we will have a drink somewhere then head over to the cinema. to watch a comedy, i know she's looking for a relationship & i'm looking for something.

Let's say i find her ok? and i can tell from her face she think i'm also alright?

WHEN do i kiss her and DO i even kiss her on the first date?

i'm used to go out and take a girl and just kiss, but never done this with a pre-planned date.

Dont know if i should and i'm more like thinking well just gotta strike in a moment and i'll see whatever happens.

[dancingdoc2]

Call me old fashioned or a stickler for etiquette, however, I am not one to kiss on the first date or two; it's just too presumptuous. A kiss should mean something, even a good night kiss or a thank you kiss. When it is time to say good night, take one or both of her hands, hold them, look into her eyes and thank her for a great evening (assuming it was); briefly recap one or two events of the date, and if you really like each other, tell her and either set up another date, or tell her you will call her in a couple of days to schedule a second date. Then, follow through.

[I_need_advice]

hehe could be an idea. anyway had 2 girlfriends (last relationship lasted 10 months) and both got them by going out and dance and kiss them when i saw them for the first time LOL, havent saw any other method work and it's what im really used to. and then i get there phone number and first time we dated we kissed. anyway i will just look into her eyes, and try to be myself and talk away and perhaps, IF it feels right ill kiss her and go home with a great inner feeling. And if i do like her alot and see the situation at hand does not allows it i will ask her out (but this would mean she has to sleepover to coz train wont be going this late LOL) and go and do my dance trick and kiss eitherway call me insane. btw, you helped me alot with advice thanks and im following it as u see the relation ship with my girlfriend is broken and im dating new ones. i acutally have 3 dates this week O_O unebelievable but true. signed myself up with a dating website lolz.. anyway u'r a good fellow you on this forum alot and you really help people.

[I_need_advice]

btw i think i'm nervous.. or atleast i should be, wel i'm a bit nervous anyway really have no idea what person im eding up with ahh well ill let you how it ended ;-)

[Newtolove]

it realy depends on you and her jus play it by ear see how interested she is in you. going too fast will possibly scare her off so take it cool and wait till next time as doc says if she is interested in you she won't be running off with anybody else tomorow

[I_need_advice]

you know.. it just keep glitching my mind, in the other hand ur absolutely right there's a big chance that the chance would increase if you dont rush. But i'm actually planning on asking her out after we went the cinema to the bar and hope for kisses (if she looks alright atleast..)
i really want my ex- to see it, i will play the game called life, bring it and i will make her it a little bit tough as she made me, i will show her that she actually still feels for me by letting her feel the pain of seeing me with a other girl. well i will just see what the situation gives me, im a psychologist - in study shouldnt be hard, but a no is a no. anyhow cant even believe im thinking to do this, argh, hopefully ill be forgiven for even thinking about this.

[Newtolove]

erm take it easy lado your ex will see you sooner or later with this other girl and better it be when things between you are closer than right now don't try to use her in that respect there is a time and place for everything

[I_need_advice]

ur right.. well gonne leave in a 30 minutes :P just gonne be myself and keep it normal

[dancingdoc2]

> i really want my ex- to see it, i will play the game called life, bring it and i will make her it a little bit tough as she made me, i will show her that she actually still feels for me by letting her feel the pain of seeing me with a other girl.

This is just stupid, idiodic, immature, juvenile, oneupsmanship. Why spend time and energy putting on a show for an ex- that the new girl is certain to pick up on--and then what? As a phychologist in study, you have much to study.

Whether you like this new person enough to continue dating or not, while with her she should be receiving your full and undivided attention.

So, how did this date go?

[EvilEvilKitten]

dancingdoc - I agree. Very juvenile behavior.