first time soon...

[SmilingInside]

im gonna be having sex for the first time soon lol its not like we planned it...its just sorta like we both know its gonna happen...is there anything i need to know before? is there anything u wish u had known before ur first time?

[Talie]

Take it slow, make sure your both ready, communicate thats a gd start. Using lube could help and make sure ur first time is somewhere u both feel relaxed and a time when u have privacy.

[browneyedgirl]

I had a wonderful first time. I was really relaxed, and very comfortable with my bf. In general I'm not a very nervous or modest person, so that helped. I expected that I'd be pretty nervous being naked in front of my bf the first time, but I wasn't at all. Once we undressed, I was excited, but not nervous at all. It wasn't painful, just fun and special, and it even felt good. We did sorta plan it (parents out of town), so we both knew what was going on. We had candles and everything, which was really romantic.

I do recommend planning when you'll have sex, especially if you live with your parents. That way you'll have sex when you don't have to worry about anyone barging in, and you can take your time and relax. Bring condoms, of course. Candles are nice. And remember: LOTS OF FOREPLAY!!

[dancingdoc2]

> And remember: LOTS OF FOREPLAY!!

True enough; however, more to the point is lots of making out before and during foreplay. Do not be in a rush to get to the finish line. More often than not it is the journey and not the destination that makes it all worthwhile.

Do not expect that everything will go as planned or to be as great as hoped for the first few times.

Are you able to enjoy orgasms? In other words, do you masturbate? If yes, then help him help you achieve them by showing him how you do it and guiding his hand/fingers several times until he learns to mimic your technique. The same holds true for him with you and stroking his penis.

If you have never experienced orgasms, do not expect that he will give them to you. We do not give orgasms away. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve his/her own. In the meantime, begin learning about your body and how to masturbate and what it takes to generate and to trigger orgasms.

Between now and the planned event, spend time each day doing an exercise to make your vaginal opening more complient, and also, if you have an intact hymen. The exercise is performed in a bathtub of warm water (or a shower if no tub is available). The water softens the skin. Insert one finger and pull against the opening holding the tension for several moments before moving on to the next quadrant. Eventually, in several days, you should be able to insert two fingers. When you can, use them to pull in opposition, again stretching the circumfrence of the opening.

Hymens, when intact, come in many different styles, hole patterns, and thicknesses. Often the hymen can be stretched to make it more complient, also. If you have a hymen, position the head of the penis against the largest opening, OR, between it and the vaginal wall. Never poke, prod, jab, or shove; rather, use pressure to gain entry--stopping and restarting as necessary.

Do not begin intercourse prematurely; and then, only begin when you are ready. The best postion for the first couple of times is the "Woman Superior" position in which the man reclines face up while the woman straddles his body facing him. She can squat, kneel, and/or rest on her hands or forearms. Action can be moving up and down in order to stroke, or to move back and forth or side to side in an undulating manner. You can sit on him to do these last two movements.

The reasons this position is ideal for first time intercourse is because it places the woman in control. It also saves the man from possible embarrassment when he cannot locate the vaginal opening. You know where his penis is and you know where the entrance is, so can easily and deftly bring the two together. You also control the placement of the penis at the entry, the amount of pressure to apply to gain entry, when to stop and retry, how slow or fast to let him slip inside, when and how fast to begin stroking and to what depth. He can participate by caressing your breasts and holding them steady so as not to bounce unnecessarily. He can do limited pelvic lifts, also.

This is not "everything" you should know; however, it is enough to get you prepared and started.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Compliant is spelt with an a.

Condoms, lubricant, comfortable surroundings, privacy and TIME to relax and really enjoy the experience.

Towels are also a good idea.

[blondie]

well my first time was in my best friends mum's bed, it was excellant, but would of been better in his or my bed, do it somewhere comfortable, talk to each other, make sures yous are defo ready and ENJOY dont be tense and scared its really nice after its in.