need advice...

[lovergrl66]

ok so this summer i was at my grandmas house in tennessee. i have a friend down there that ive known since i was two. [ im 14 now ] i went to the pool with her one day and met a bunch of her friends. one of her guy friends i fell for. and he fell for me too. weve been talking ever since we met and actully have been going out for a while. the only thing is that my friend doesnt kno that me and him are going out. she doesnt even kno that we're still talking. and the other day he told me that she asked him out. he doesnt like her at all he actully kinda hates her but i kno shes liked him for a while thats why i dont want to tell her about me and him [ she got really pissed at me when i was flirting with him ]. i really really really like this guy and he feels the same way about me. we've worked really hard to keep this thing going since he lives in tennessee and i live in chicago so i dont want to just give up on it because my friend likes him. i dont kno what to do. me and him have been talking alot about this and how were probablly gonna tell her when im down there at thanksgiving. but like i dont want her to get mad at me. but i think if i keep putting it off its just gonna piss her off more. if anyone could give me advice that would be very helpful. thanks.

[the dude]

my best advice would be to just tell her now. it's only going to get worse if you keep putting it off. Pretty much goes for anything in life. if she wants to hate you for it then let her, if she's really a good friend she'll understand the situation and not be mad. if she does get mad then just tell her to go eat a lead salad.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just stop. None of this is anyone else's business. He doesn't like her. Fine; all he has to do is to say no thank you. She likes him. Sorry, but she'll just have to go elsewhere. That is between them and has nothing to do with you. You and he are an item, as it used to be called. Enjoy it. She has no claims upon him so she has no need to know.

Learn to be private.