New Girlfriend -long-

[Morbid]

Alright so usually I always post answers to questions but I figure I might make a topic about this This isn't really a question topic but more of an opinion topic.

This girl(her name is Cody) and I met online, on myspace, talked to each other for about a month and really started liking each other. She had gotten out of a relationship that lasted about a year or so in june/august because her boyfriend kissed another girl he liked. She has told me she had sex with him once or twice, which doesn't bother me at all.

We haven't seen each other in person yet, just pictures, she has seen my webcam, we talk on the phone and online all the time. She only lives an hour away from me, I have my license and she is a year younger than I, so she doesn't. We started dating a week ago, planning on me visiting her sometime real soon. Everything was going great until the other day when she told me she was having mixed feelings and second thoughts. Telling me that this is why she was hesitant to get into an other relationship, she wasn't afraid of getting hurt by me or anything, but just had mixed feelings about what she wanted I guess. I talked to her about it as much as I could trying to figure things out and didn't get very far for the lack of info. What I didnt find out though is that she said she kind of has feelings for the guy she dated and then again she kinda hates him for what he did, she really likes me a lot and wants to be with me but she doesn't know why she is feeling these things.

I tell her it might be because she lost her virginity to him and thought it was special. I explained to her that I felt the same way about the girl I lost mine to, I felt like I loved her still months afterwards and it was just because of the sexual side of it. She said this might be it, and that is all I heard from her that night really.

She wanted me to come and meet her saturday night of last week for a highschool basketball scrimmage between junior varsity and varsity kinda thing. We are both homeschooled, use to be in school been homeschooling for about a year each. I wanted to go but parents said no it was too early or something. This didn't upset her really. She went and ever since then she kind of acted distant. Didn't talk to me really online much, I didn't want to crowd her so I didn't call her for a day or 2. Well yesturday, I got home from work and checked myspace.. I had her as my number 1 and she wasn't there, so I thought well she's deleted and remade her page before that is probly what she's doing. Then I check another persons page she was on and she was there, this startled me. That whole night she wouldn't answer my calls, her cell was off, she wasn't online, I had no way of finding out what was going on.

Well today she got on msn and I was like... so is it over.. or what's going on? She explained to me that she was really stressed out last night over some different things and that she cried for 5 hours and her mom was concerned and said she might want to see a therapist, and she got mad and was yelling at her parents and such. This got her grounded, no cell phone for a while and limited computer access. She told me she had deleted me cause she had so many things going through her head and wanted them out so something made her just delete me and stop thinking about it. I was understanding, saying I wasn't mad I was only afraid of not knowing what had happened because she really isn't the type to do something so adruply as that.

We are all well now, but her mom told her she is going to see a therapist every friday and at some point they were talking about me, and her mom told her she isn't allowed to have a boyfriend for now because she is being stressed out too much over things. Well this being the case, I can understand where she is coming from but truly I don't stress her out, if anything I relieve her of stress. Cody tells me I am someone she thinks she can tell me anything and trust me with it. This means a LOT to me coming from her. I tell her that it's alright that her mom says that, we can still talk and stuff as if we are dating, it is just a problem now though because I won't be able to visit her as we wanted, not soon anyway.

So really if any of you have bothered reading this all, I hope you don't think it was a waste of time or anything. I guess I just had the need to type this all out and tell someone about it, cause where I'm homeschooled and I work for my dad's HVAC company with a few other guys who are much older, I can't talk to anyone about it really, and people my age that I do talk to aren't really as knowledgable and understandable about relationships as I am so I don't bother trying with them. What are your opinions on this relationship?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Not a relationship per se but whatever it was - it is over. Let it and her go. Next time go for a girl with some experience and one who doesn't talk 'relationship'.