Need some input...

[borbosha1]

First some backround.

I met this girl and we dated pretty stedily over the month of September. We had more than a few dates and had kissed and held each other, but nothing else really happened (we were taking it slow due to her previous relationship ending pretty bad). Things felt like they were going pretty good, then she got really busy at work due to being the only teller.

This was at the beginning of October. Since then I have only seen her once and it was when I stopped by her work to see her. We have talked a little bit over the phone but haven't done anything. She says that she is so busy with work that she ends up going to bed right when she gets home which is understandable. She also said that the reason she doesn't respond to some of my text messages is because she forgets to charge her phone.

I understand her being busy and I am pretty sure she is still interested in me, she just seems way to busy. I don't know what to think tho since I hardly hear from her when I text her and she never initiates the conversations. I don't know if she is trying to blow me off and just doesn't want to come right out and say it or if she is just so busy that she doesn't have the time.

Anyway, my question is whether I should give her more time and wait for her or if I should move on and let her talk to me when she is ready. I don't want to be a "stalker" by trying to talk to her all the time but also don't know what else to do. Hopefully you guys can help me in making a decission.

[Morbid]

Well it all depends on how much you like her and how far you are wanting to go with her. If you are serious about her and want to be with her for a really long time, adapt to it, if you get aggrevated or mad at her because of her work, it will only make her feel like she isn't pleasing you and will make her feel like she is putting her time to waste or something. What are her hours during the day and what days out of the week does she work? How old are you both? If you truly like/love her then stick with it to an extent.. You don't want to always be waiting, that will always make you feel bad.

[borbosha1]

She tends to work 6 days of the week and at least 2 of them are 12 hour days.... and the rest tend to be 9+. I am 21 and she is 20 (21 end of December). I do really like her but like I said I don't want to be a "stalker" and end up pushing her away. I just don't know if I should continue trying to contact her or if I should just let her get ahold of me.

I can't really say I am mad at her or aggrevated even. I just would like to see her more often, even if it's just once a week.

[Morbid]

Hmm well tell her this. Maybe she thinks she is working too much and you have lost interest or something.. I'm in a relationship right now with someone that lives an hour away from me and I've not even seen her in person yet, and we love each other to death. Try making arangements on her free days if she can, take her out to dinner one night, help her relax, get her mind off work and she will look forward to seeing you a lot more out of work. Just don't ever give her the thought of quiting her job for the sake of a relationship, that's just not worth it, especially at that age. I'm only 16, and most of my friends are well how can I say this, unknowledgable and disrespectful when it comes to these things, I suppose I'm just more interested, but anyhow, just talk to her, communication is the key when it comes to any kind of problem.

[briguy]

I actually think that the best way to approach this is to adapt her work into your life. It's obvious that she really cares about her occupation, and I'm sure she'll be even more interested in you if you show that you care about it too.

Most of all I think that you should approach the situation so that you and work become associated with one another. Visit her at her job every now and then and give her a quick massage to wipe away that stress. Give her a gift (maybe a picture of you and her together) to put on her desk so that she'll have a reminder that you exist during the day. During her lunch break, take her to a restaurant for a quick bite.

There are a ton of little things that you can do to make sure that work isn't the only thing on her mind. You just gotta have the will to make it work, and the creativity to keep it interesting.

[unknown11]

heh she prolly is a lost cause juss back off and call her not so much

[EvilEvilKitten]

She's not interested in you. Stop calling her altogether and move on.

The woman's a teller not a rocket scientist for heaven's sake! If she had wanted to be with you, she would have made arrangements. As she hasn't done so, she's not interested. Showing her any more interest is just a waste of your time and energy.

[borbosha1]

Yeah I have moved on. Her loss I guess. Thanks for the input everyone.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, dude. It is not her loss. Wrong attitude. "It just was not the right match." That's the correct attitude. No 'blame' on either side.