Question

[Melanie]

hey
ive never written on one of these things before but thought i could do with some advice..
i met this really nice guy that i've been out with about 4 or 5 times now. we get on well, but more than that we just seem to have loads of chemistry going on!
problem is we're both really shy, and whilst we've both been in relationships before, when it comes to actually having sex we both seem to freak out a bit. we both really want to, but on 3 seperate occasions now when its actually come down to it he's failed to keep an erection =/ i know for a fact that we both fancy each other. he basically said that he wants me to take control more but i cant help being nervous.
he's not been in touch now for a few days since last time i saw him. i'm not sure of its because hes gone off me or just because he's really embarrassed.
should i get in touch? or just wait and see if he does? i don't really get how men feel about that kinda thing...

[THQMA5]

Well i think that you are not ready or you need to just realy talk about it do you do foreplay, and i would contact him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

He's embarassed. Call him and do something totally non-sexual, non-date with him. In fact, refuse to even hold hands etc. Either he gets over it or he's of no use to you. Yes, it sounds harsh but hey, you need a man not a mouse. Nothing is worse than a shy guy. And shy girls aren't much better.