i found out the truth...ahhh

[darrensusername]

ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out for 5months now and we were both virgins (see the "were" meaning we did have sex) and just today she told me that with a previous boyfriend of hers they were making out and it led to his penis going inside her.. now she claims that it went as far as a tampon would and she told him to stop and she told me that when me and her did it i broke some wall or something like that.. im just curious to know if im considered her first or is he. Also, she said that as soon as he went in tampon length that was it he made him get out and that was it.. no real sex there. Its hard to think of some other guys dick inside and its making me go insane thinking if im her first or is he >_<

[curly]

Well to answer your question, no thats not technically sex and she would still technically be considered a virgin. Also you making this into an issue is stupid and immature. If you have a problem with not being a girls first, then you probaly won't have many succesful relationships in the future.

[unknown11]

tru but wut would his dick b doing next to her pussy

[darrensusername]

she said it was in her tampon length but she said it didnt break her wall or something like that she said i did during our first time.. and im sorta making this an issue cause she lied to me. She lead me on thinking that i was the first guy to do something like that and now im like wtf.

[Talie]

everyone will have different views on whether she was a virgin after that guy or not. It depends if your view of sex is 'the penis went in' or 'went in and went in and out a lot'. to be fair it shouldn't matter. If she doesnt belive it was sex and thinks she was a virgin then she hasn't lied as she told u that. you just may have a different view of what taking someones virginity is. How old r u?

[dancingdoc2]

> Its hard to think of some other guys dick inside and its making me go insane

At some point in the not too distant future of your life, you will realize that most of the women you meet will have had intercourse with someone else. With numbers that great, you will be going insane a lot unless you change your view of what is and is not important in the overall scheme of things.

> she told me that when me and her did it i broke some wall or something like that.. im just curious to know if im considered her first or is he.

I find it puzzling and disturbing that you are more focused on who was first instead of whether you actually "broke some wall or something like that", possibly injuring her. This and the fact that neither of you seem to know what if anything was broken or damaged makes me think neither of you should be having intercourse until you learn more about the male and female anatomy.

[Newtolove]

yes I think you are refering to her hymen and you do need to learn a bit more before going into sex. also it is possible that this other person was a bit pushy and so she was pushed into it and so perhaps you are being over critical. The issue is that you are happy now !

[littlegirl122]

if you want to be considered her first, consider it what you want. if she didnt "break a wall" aka her hymen, then shes technically a virgin.
i kindof understand where your coming from, cause im a realy jealous person in relationships, and so is the guy im with.

i honestly never told him what i did, cause im embarased. i wouldnt lie, but its not something im proud of that im so experianced at such a young age.

mabey she wanted you to be HER first? so she kept her previous experiance to herself?

dont worry. personally, id rather not know if i was you.

[13leedingrose]

Originally Posted by darrensusername

.. and im sorta making this an issue cause she lied to me. She lead me on thinking that i was the first guy to do something like that and now im like wtf.

Well maybe she was ashamed of what happened. My boyfriend and I have been together for 20 months and we had sex alittle bit after our year. I was in an abusive relationship before my boyfriend now, and I told him all about it. The one thing that I left out was that my ex raped me multiple times. I just recently told my boyfriend about being raped 2 months ago... It's not because I didn't EVER want him to know, it was because I was ashamed to tel him about what happened to me. I was too scared that he would be upset with me and leave.


Just be glad she got the courage to tell you, because she didn't have to.

[EvilEvilKitten]

So you're not the first - BFD. Why are you asking? Your ego THAT fragile or something? Jealousy is for losers! All being jealous means that you are insecure to the point where you have to have a strangle-hold on someone to keep them with you. She lied? OF COURSE SHE LIED! You had no business asking such a question in the first place! Her past is her's and has nothing to do with you. Thank your lucky stars you still have all your teeth, buddy.