First Time / one night stand

[UniversityDube]

I'm 18, This is my first time doing anything with a girl. SIGHs I know it's pretty sad for a 18 year old. Basically just be sincere with your comments please.

I have to explain this entire story to you. Well, I go to a college campus for a weekend and then one of my friends hooks me up with this girl. We go watch tv (on her bed) from 10pm to 5am in the morning then. We get closser, (i'm rubbing her back, she falls asleep as i'm doing that for 30mins) as her head is on my chest. Then we're holding hands for like 3 hours with btw ** no kissing ** then finally, at 5am the other people leave our room.. I say "I'm tired" so she invites me to rest in her bed. So, I say sure. Before we go to sleep she starts making out with me. It only last 5mins, then she we go to sleep. She lies on her right side with me in back of her holding on to her hands (my arm was over her left hips, and over her stomach).

Now I have to explain to you the making out part because I think I did it kind of wrong. First off, when the others left and turned off the lights. I was there and we were just lying there for a few minutes, I started bringing up a topic, which BTW lasted 20 seconds. Then 20 seconds after the silence, she turns towards me and she goes ontop of me.

I'm like shivering at this point. I think I was really cold. But it probably wasn't because I was nervous. She's on top of me for like 3 mins, giving me like dry humps. Then I stopped kissing her for like 5 seconds, I think she got the body language that I wanted to stop. so she layed back on her side. I then went to her and started kissing her for like 30 seconds max. Then I stopped and went back laying down saying "I'm really cold" because at that point I was shivering like crazy. First off, this was my first time kissing, do you think that she can tell? Second, was like 3 minutes of making out pretty bad? Like we were getting intimite, I was kissing her neck a few times during that time. then her lips again. I'm just really confused, because as we went to sleep we were all cudaly, as I said above and then I find out that when my friend asks her the next day "if you are into a long term relationship" she replies with no.

This is my first time doing this stuff and it kinda hurts. Any advice tips would be great.

Second, was the upper back rubbing good? Like I was doing the criss cross stuff, then the slow to fast stuff (on the back). I'm not expert because is my first time, do women like the back rubs or can that get annoying. Because I noticed that after a while she was rubbing my hand "between the rist and thumb" and it just didn't feel much of a turn on. Actually felt kind of weird.

[UniversityDube]

and another question: If this girl was only into the "one night stand thing" do you think that she was really into the holding hands thing as we fell asleep?? or do you think she just did that to not make me feel bad?

[dancingdoc2]

> If this girl was only into the "one night stand thing" do you think that she was really into the holding hands thing as we fell asleep?

Perhaps the way to look at the matter is that she was into the "moment".

> I'm like shivering at this point. I think I was really cold. But it probably wasn't because I was nervous.

You may have been cold, however, shivering is also a reaction to a person being very excited and turned on!

> First off, this was my first time kissing, do you think that she can tell?

Probably, however, more importantly, does it matter? I think not. It's all about the moment.

> Second, was like 3 minutes of making out pretty bad?

In and of itself, probably not. If this is all you did before trying to help her climax then it was very bad. Not being a fly on the wall, who can say whether it was good or bad but her. How did she react?

This is all I have time for. Gotta go slave away.
-Doc

[ua322]

It's difficult to give advise about something like this because not only do you not have experience, but you don't even know this girl and there is no level of trust between you.

All I can say is that if you first developed an actual relationship with a girl, it would be easier to learn the mechanics of foreplay with her because there would be some meaning to it.