Relationships and age differences

[curly]

I'm 16 and want to go out with an 18yo girl. I know she likes me and we hang out etc. Earlier in the weekend we went to a Amusment park and I experimented just putting my hands in hers, stroking her arms, etc. Each time she was receptive. As we drove home one night I decided just to go for it, I leaned over and asked her to turn around so I could kiss her. The reaction: She smiled, then she said "but im two years older than you", then "I have to get over the age thing first". Well I found this puzzling because I knew she was into me and wanted to go out. She let me kiss her on the cheek and nothing else. I'm not sure what I should do next, should I wait for her to come to me? Should I continue flirting and/or ask her out?

[dancingdoc2]

What is the age of consent in your area?

[curly]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

What is the age of consent in your area?

Do you mean the age that you can "legally" have sex at? If so I have no idea, creating an age limit to have sex is ridiculous.

[cunning_plan]

have to admit thats a slightly strange question doc... considering hes only kissed her on the cheek. not sure how your laws work but ares are a bit inconsistent on the boy under age area...

anyhow. you obviously seem to like her and care about the issue enough to write here. personaly id try and have a chat with her about it at a semi social event. but relax and give her time.

if she likes you 2 years wont make much difference.

[Morbid]

Here, pretty much if you are having sex with someone younger than 18, you are a minor, and for someone 18+ and a minor to have sexual relations is illegal basically. I think this is stupid, but w/e. She might be thinking of this or she might just be taking it slow with you and making sure you aren't just into her for her looks or something because shes 18 or something ya know? Just talk to her about it.

[CJS-81]

The difference between being 16 and being 18 is HUGE. You'll see when you get older. For her it might be an issue of maturity (16 year olds are somewhat immature...), peer pressure (what will her parnets/ friends think of her?), or yeh - the LEGAL issues. You don't want to go breaking the law by being sexual when you're under age....

Anyway, when you're older, two years, four years - sometimes even 10 is no matter, because it's not an age that define you, but your experiences, your interests, your passions, your "essence of being" (of course age can contribute, but it's not everything).

[curly]

Originally Posted by CJS-81

The difference between being 16 and being 18 is HUGE. You'll see when you get older. For her it might be an issue of maturity (16 year olds are somewhat immature...), peer pressure (what will her parnets/ friends think of her?), or yeh - the LEGAL issues. You don't want to go breaking the law by being sexual when you're under age....

Anyway, when you're older, two years, four years - sometimes even 10 is no matter, because it's not an age that define you, but your experiences, your interests, your passions, your "essence of being" (of course age can contribute, but it's not everything).

It may be "HUGE" to the immature and close minded. I am very mature for my age. Making such a generalization that "16 year olds are somewhat immature..." is bs, as is any generilzation. As for the legal sex, to be simply put, its a load of bull****. Also we are only one grade apart, wich I beleive is more of a determining factor of maturity in highschool than age.

[Westles]

I think its different when the male is younger, most of the girls i know go for older lads, take my gf for example she is 16 and im 18.

[Morbid]

I agre with Westles, that is more common nowdays, especially in teen years. And I agree with you also, the legal age thing IS idiotic, but it has a purpose. She might be afraid to commit to you because of peer pressure also, do you know/hang out with a bunch of her friends? Vise verca for her and your friends?

[curly]

Sort of, well not really, I know some of her friends and have hung out with them a bit. We don't share the same group of friends that we associate with on a regular basis. I don't think her friends would pressure her not to go out with me. I'm very confused and getting alot of mixed signals, have no idea what she wants. I've been told she likes me her friends have told me to take her out to dinner etc. Then we start becoming friendly and you can see in OP what happened when I tried to kiss her, and I doubt It was because I was moving to fast since imo I was taking it pretty slow. Were going up to NC for some 3 day music festival thing so I'm just going to see how it all plays out there.