I want her to have the pleasure, not me

[AllAboutIT]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now, and we are very open about everything. From sex to what we want to do with our futures, anything. For the last year we have had sex regularly, which is about 2 to 3 times a week. We went through the crazy beggining stages of lots and lots. I love this girl to death, but are sex isnt what it used to be, heres what im saying... I have had the orgasms, she has pleased me very well, Now... she wants the orgasms, but she isnt having them. We have had the talks about what we do, 4 play, positions, all that, but we are both very frustrated because she isnt orgasming... We have been to the sex shop, boughten her the vibrator, but she feels that its just a tool, and isnt romantic... She is 18 and I dont know what to do... She doesnt masturbate, and the last time she ever had an orgasm was with an ex 2 years ago orally. I go down on her all the time, but am not having results. This girl is the one person I want most to have the pleasure... anything please...

[dancingdoc2]

Your concern is probably the most common of the problems addressed on this Board. As such you can find a hugh amount of information on the topic of not being able to orgasm. I have written about this at least once a week.

Please do an advanced site search using my name and the key word: responsible

You will find several of my replies that talk about why a person experiences difficulty and how to correct the problem.