help on a shy girl

[orodel]

I need help on getting a really shy girl to be comfortable with me. When I first met her she had a few drinks and wasnt so shy. This made things confusing the next days when she seemed embarrased to talk to me even though her friends kept telling me she really liked me. Now when I say she is shy I mean she is really really shy. I'm not looking to just get into her pants, I really do like her and am getting frusterated that even though shes apparently really into me she seems afraid of me.

thanks

[Sirene]

Tell her good things about her to make her confident. Show her that you're interested. Tell her she looks nice, or mention the colour of her eyes, or ask her questions about her, show her you want to know her more.

[petenpete]

Im 17 and i dated a shy girl it didnt last long. She never talked at all and when she did it would be about something she only likes. Everyday we had awkward sliences - I always had to make the first move - i always had to call her she never called me. i had to end it - it got so boring. It was like talking to a SHY brick wall - whatever that means. The first night we met she had a few jungle juices and we fooled around but when she was sober bleh-- yeah and i never got past first base with her in a month.

Maybe things will be different for you -- goodluck

[CJS-81]

Originally Posted by petenpete

Im 17 and i dated a shy girl it didnt last long. She never talked at all and when she did it would be about something she only likes. Everyday we had awkward sliences - I always had to make the first move - i always had to call her she never called me. i had to end it - it got so boring. It was like talking to a SHY brick wall - whatever that means. The first night we met she had a few jungle juices and we fooled around but when she was sober bleh-- yeah and i never got past first base with her in a month.

Probably not the most helpful post pete....

[CJS-81]

Originally Posted by orodel

I need help on getting a really shy girl to be comfortable with me. When I first met her she had a few drinks and wasnt so shy. This made things confusing the next days when she seemed embarrased to talk to me even though her friends kept telling me she really liked me. Now when I say she is shy I mean she is really really shy. I'm not looking to just get into her pants, I really do like her and am getting frusterated that even though shes apparently really into me she seems afraid of me.

That is a difficult one. I used to be very very shy when i was younger, and especially if i was around a guy i was attracted to.

If you clicked before, then she will remember that. Maybe she's afraid because she's not convinced you like her for who she is.

Here are some ideas, but i can't guarantee they'll work for you... Nevertheless:

*Try writing her a letter, saying you enjoyed the time you spent together (whenever it was) and that you'd like to spend some time together again because you liked her alot (here describe what you liked about her - AS A PERSON!). Then either suggest she write back to confirm another meet, or give your email address and suggest you correspond on email. If she's met you, perhaps you need to show more of yourself; to show your "deeper" side - what better way than via the Net - you can write about all sorts of things and she'll see who you really are.

*Don't try to make any "moves" on her, but be friendly: SMILE at her, say hello, compliment her. As time goes on, she may begin to open up to you and you migth get a conversation going.

*Try a direct approach - when you find her on her own, approach her and tell her how you feel (again, state the reasons you like her as a person).

I personally think the letter option is the way to go... but it's up to you!

Hope that helps!

[crystalvoyeger]

hi stick with it dude, she maybe insecure like my gf,its well worth the trouble getting to know shy people, they arnt big headed and once she relaxs you may find she is a very special person.good luck