confusing girl

[orodel]

Ok, I met this girl about a month ago and shes very confusing so I'll start from the begining. I'm 22 and shes 20. Every weekend I end up seeing this girl. A few times we have made out and she has stayed over but nothing more than that. She seems to changed from one day to the next. One night she'll be all over me and the next she'll come to my place for a party and not seem to want to talk to me. Whenever I call her the next day or a few days after she doesnt seem to want to talk or meet anywhere. When I finally convinced myself to stop thinking about her and just give up she just happend to call me that night and ask what I was up to. We hung out all night and I really thought we had something to build off of. However, the next day the same thing.... she came over again and seemed almost afraid to talk to me. Eventually we sat on the couch together and I tried to get out of her whats wrong.... she just kept saying "I dunno". Eventually I got off the subject ...we kissed a few times. The next day the same weird awkwardness. All her friends tell me she likes me and they recently told me that they think the reason she acts like this is because of her previous and only serious relationship. The guy ignored her half the time, cheated on her, and then left her. I dont know if she thinks I will do the same or if shes just scared to be in another relationship. I am suppose to meet her later tonight for something to eat and dont want this to turn into another awkward situation. Any advice please. I want to ask her whats the problem..... is she really into me or no? but at the same time I dont want to scare her away. She can be a shy person.

[dancingdoc2]

Please read what I just finished writing in the thread "I need advice".

In addition, you might express to her that you are aware of her previous experience with guys and that you want to assure her that you have her best interest at heart and that while you may make miskakes along the way, your intentions are honorable and that you want to work together on a closer friendship, and if it goes well, a relationship with her. See how she accepts this and then play it by ear taking your cues from how she reacts and from what she says. Do not push her, yet at the same time, let her know that you are there for her what she can expect from you regarding your attitude and behavior toward her, and to some extent what you expect from her.

[orodel]

thanks for the advice

[NizeGie]

My initial reaction to the topic line, "confusing girl," was: "Is there any other kind?" I'm sure women would have the same reaction to a thread headed, "confusing guy." Shoot, for that matter, I bet gay guys would too.

I think most people can be pretty confusing when you start to delve into the relationship area. Some more than others, of course.

You can either:

- Keep something going with her, but with the expectation that she's going to confuse you from time to time. To some extent, it keeps things interesting. It's like a book with weird and unexpected plot twists.

- Decide she's so flakey you don't want to have anything more to do with her. Which would, of course, probably completely confuse her. Especially if you change your mind ... then decide you were right in the first place ... or maybe not ....