Paranoid about girlfriend

[dirtymarky]

My problem is that my girlfriend is about to turn 18 and she says once she is 18 she is going to go town all the time and get drunk. She says she is going to dress like a slag and I am just paranoid that other men are going to take advantage of her and she may cheat on me. Also i fear that I want see her that much as she will probably go up town all the time and just leave me as I am just 17.

I love her too pieces and don't want to lose her!

Please help me on what I should do and the way I feel?

Thanks

[dancingdoc2]

It seems to me that there are a couple of things wrong with this scenario. First, is her moral and value system. Now, I can see a person breaking loose from parental authority somewhat and going a bit wild, however, your descriptions of her intentions is bizarre and way more than this. You are right to be worried; although, I think I'd consider remaining her friend instead of being in a relationship until she settles down.

Second, my recommendation to all teens and people in their early twenties is to date lots of people and not to stop with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. The purpose of dating is and always has been to go out with many other people on a temporary basis in order to get closer to them than what a casual friendship permits. The intent is to learn more about what humanity has to offer us. The more people you are exposed to the more knowledge you will have about people's character, likes, dislikes, quirts, values, goals, morals, so that when the time does come to narrow the playing field you will have a better idea of who Ms. Right will be and how to find her.

Third, by not entering into an exclusive relationship for a few years, you eliminate all the drama and trauma inherent of breaking up and most of the struggles and turmoil that often accompanies young relationships.

Your feelings are very normal and as difficult as it may seem, we all have to experience them. This is another reason to date lots of people so that you can also learn coping skills with "moving on" to the next person to date for awhile.

[WallyLlama]

She may be just "blowing smoke."

Get on equal footing with her... being 17 doesn't make you any less a person than her. Being 18 doesn't make her an adult - particularly if she's going to act stupid and immature. Adulthood is not about age.

Tell her you don't want your girlfriend doing what she's going to do. It's entirely possible that she wants to hear that!

Be the man! LOL