what is a good way to approach a very nice young women in the mall?

[truck21]

what is a good way to approach a very nice young women in the mall? Seems that everyone is in a rush and i don't want to scare one of them away...

[dancingdoc2]

I gather from your question you are asking about passersby and not a store employee.

Chances are slim to none that you can hail someone walking down the isle either alone or in the company of one or more others. People have agendas and schedules, and even more to the point--the old admonishment of not talking to strangers. Your chances are better when sitting at a counter in a restaurant, or looking at books in a bookstore for example where they are not moving, probably not in a hurry, and more open to talking to someone.

Better yet is to find someone sitting on a bench or chair set aside in most malls for people waiting on others, killing time, or just waiting on others. If you sit nearby you might be able to strike up a conversation, although you must understand that not everybody is going to be open to talking to a stranger more than just to say hello or give directions or the time. Even so, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

If you want to talk to a clerk, waitress, or other employee, then you have a greater opportunity to engage her in conversation assuming she is not busy.

Better me thinks to become involved in one or more activities in which women of like mind participate. Church groups, social organizations, hobby clubs, and sporting activities are good choices.

Does this help? Got more questions or concerns?

[Morbid]

Yea I agree with everything dancingdoc2 said. Imagine yourself walking through the mall, alone or with friends, shopping, having a good time, then all of a sudden, someone walks up to u and says something like, "Hi, what's your name? Wanna see a movie?" Now I'm not saying that is how it would sound, but something similar, you get the picture, kinda creepy.

Best way to get them in a conversation is to maybe talk to them when they are looking at a product in a store, you could mention something like you have it and it works great, then tell them your name, ask some questions, there ya go. It all depends on the girl though, whether they will be open to chat, or not single, you never know.

[NizeGie]

A few off-the-cuff thoughts, some not entirely serious:

- Hang around near the vibrating massage chair in Brookstone.

- There's always the "Otter" approach: hang around near the produce, watch for women buying cucumbers and announce, "Mine's bigger." Could work with anything vaguely cucumber-esque, but stay away from the women looking at baseball bats.

- Or the "Rat" approach: awkwardly ask the girl in the pizza place what they do with the coats people leave there.

- And there's the "Destined to Fail" approach: hang out in a comic book store arguing with guys about which issue of Silver Surfer is best.

- There do seem to be a fair number of young women who "hang out" in malls to no apparent purpose other than to meet people. Unfortunately, they're all under 16, so that doesn't do you much good, unless you're under 16 yourself, or at least close. No, 45 is not close ... stay away from the teenagers ... put the babysitter down!

- Sales clerks are probably fairish game, since they're supposed to talk to customers. From my own peripheral contact with restaurant management and ownership, I wouldn't chat up waitresses, since the ones who don't keep busy doing their job (you know, taking orders and serving stuff?) have a tendency to get fired. Using your ineffable charm to get her canned isn't the best way to a woman's heart. I don't think.