hey all(new here)

[full3ffect]

hey everyone, ive been reading on the forums for a few months now and decieded i should register and be part of the community. so, i had a long relationship with this girl that i got out of a while back, i was single for a while and i decied it was time to jump back in the game once i met this girl. she was a friend of mines younger sister but i never really paid her any attention cause she was always younger. things went well and her sister was kind of skeptical at first but now things seem better. so this girl is the complete opposite of my ex, head on her shoulders, smart(full scholarship), knows what she wants to be in life, and i can have 6 hour conversations with her at night(somthing i never did with the other girl). so now she went off to college and shes 500 miles away. i went to visit last weekend and we ended up having sex(she was a virgin). i really like the girl and i know she really likes me but ive never been in a long distance relationship and dont know how to go about keeping it. i miss her and the distance between us is not like i can get in a car and drive for 2 or 3 hours. its more of an 8 hour drive. to top it off my ex(who i guess i will always feel for) is comming back begging me to be with her saying shes sorry and she wants to try and make it work. sorry for the long post. any answers would be greatly appreciated especially from people with experience on such matters. thanks

[dancingdoc2]

At your ages my best recommendation is not to get into an exclusive relationship with anyone for a few more years. Get school out of the way, first. While you are doing this date lots of different people in order to sample what humanity has to offer. When it does come time to settle down and find Ms. Right, you will be better able to make choices. If you have an exclusive relationship, now, you open yourself up for drama and the stress of making it work, be it locally or long distance. Furthermore, you will not have to deal with the stress of breaking up. Oh, sure, as you date people there will be those that come and go, although the separating part will be far less complicated and you won't have nearly the angst and stress.

If you want to date one or both of these people then by all means do so, just keep it/them casual. The reason for doing a lot of dating is about what dating has always been about, to learn about other people--their personalities, quirks, likes, dislikes, goals, values, etc. The more exposure you have to people the better will be your final selection. As noted above, it is easier to keep one or more friendships going than it is to keep an exclusive relationship alive and well at this point in your life.