Ready to give up!

[Kitty77]

I need some male advice! One of my male friends encouraged me to be more outgoing and not so shy. Ok this ONLY leads to guys asking me out that I am not interested in! I try not to be flirtatous with guys I am not into but I have a fun-loving personality. The guys I flirt my ass off with never seem interested or some how I screw things up. Chemistry or the ZA ZA ZOO is soo important to me. So here is the question What am I doing wrong and what do I say to the guys I am not interested in? (some are co-workers or friends

[WallyLlama]

What the heck is ZA ZA ZOO?

[yuna5]

Wally- do you happen to be Turkish?

i think that guys can be scared off by women that come on to them. that's happened to me. and then guys hit on me that i want when i'm wimpering in the corner broadcasting low confidence! it's really wierd. i think women have to be like guys and look at it as a numbers game- a lot of guys won't bite. but some will and it's worth it for those guys. guys who don't like aggressive women are not worth it anyway because then you can't be aggressive sexually and then where's all the fun? The guys who like aggressive women are worth waiting for. Remember, women hitting on guys is not common. like i've heard guys say that women making more than the post office job they have they don't like. so a woman said she had to return that Benz she had bought for him that day. haha! stupid ideas like that are common. so keep your head up.

[yuna5]

and the guys you are not interested in, say so. honesty is the best policy. i'm a woman though- you asked for males.

and Wally- i think she meant ZA ZA ZOOM- maybe you're more familiar with that? anyway, it's cute the way she said it.

[WallyLlama]

Nope, not Turkish. A little slow sometimes though.

ZA ZA ZOOM!

LOL

I am soooo long and far out of the dating scene I'm not sure I can be helpful. Seems to be a bit like... fencing? It really is a game with no rules. Maybe that's the key... figuring out that there are no rules... but I guess as I read the original post I'm caused to wonder:

How do you know you're not interested in somebody before you date them? (Well assuming they don't have one big eye in the middle of their forehead.) Does ZA ZA ZOOM exist from the moment of contact or does it sometimes grow...?

[yuna5]

Originally Posted by WallyLlama

Nope, not Turkish. A little slow sometimes though.

no, i just knew someone who was named Wally and i thought against logic that you might be him. wishful thinking.

[Browser]

Originally Posted by WallyLlama

Seems to be a bit like... fencing? It really is a game with no rules.

Unrelated (again), I know, but fencing has rules out the buttcheeks :P

Try to find someone who you're interested in who also seems interested in you, Kitty... then act naturally. Honesty is something many guys I know find very appealing.

[yuna5]

I'm listening to this guy David DeAngelo and he says that they did some tests and women liked the confident male actors sexually and the meek men (they were the same men acting differently) a lot less. While MEN liked the MEEK women more than the confident women even if they were the same women! I was blown away! So aggressive women are really unusual. I guess that men like to be aggressive and find meek women easier than aggressive women to get their way. I say f-uck that! Society needs to get used to dominant, aggressive women getting what they need to satisfy them. if a guy doesn't like it, he's not worth it and i'm glad i avoided him. i like the sensitive man anyway- i'm not the type of women that is attracted to the dominant aggressive men like in romance novels. i hated the rape scenes in some romance novels and i only liked romance novels for a year and stopped because they're so simple and no ones for advanced, sensitive, understanding male counterpart. sometimes i think i have to write new age romance novels with male leads that i like, not the brutish guys women have to tame. ok, that's my rant.