now and then

[jackal]

Hey all, new to these forums and this is my first post here.

I've got a question.

My girlfriend and i are both 16 and and our relationship including the sexual side of things is all good She's not my first girlfriend or anything, but i guess you could say she's been my most serious girlfriend to date and we both share really strong feelings for each other.

Basically, i know its not going to last forever, as much as atm i'd like it to. From my standpoint, i do not see a reason to break up with her in quite a long long time, however i know just as well teen relationships are always full of unexpected surprises. I've been reading around on these forums a bit and i've gathered that yeah, the teen years are really more of an experimenting time to try to date different personalities etc etc.

Anyway, the point of this... What i want to know is if ANYONE here has had a relationship that has survived long after school's over with someone who they've met in school? I was talking to a friend bout this the other day and she has an older brother who met his girlfriend (and now wife) in high school, and i was pretty shocked when she told me that there still together 15 years later!

Does anyone here have any success stories from a high school relationship? Not that im getting my hopes up or anything, im just curious to how possible it really is

Thanx

[eddy]

i made it 10 years with my first girlfriend
now i'm in my second, happier then ever, married and have a daughter.
we just slowly grew apart.
I do have a co-worker who has known the person she married since they went to grade school. they are still together

[dancingdoc2]

Hi,

Thanks for looking around the Board, first. Bravo!

I think your observations are right on as are Eddy's, above.

My first serious relatlionship was when I was a senior and she was a sophomore, although are only a year apart in age. We lasted through college and seven years. (She got the "seven year itch) which amounts to we just grew apart.

As you have observed, growing apart can happen during the high school years as is most often the case as people continue to mature and discover new likes, dislikes, and acquire new perspectives on life and people. It can also happen years later or anytime in between. The answer to your question is yes relationships can and sometimes do last although nowadays this is not the norm with a divorce rate of nearly 50% in the U.S. Years ago when people didn't travel as much and were only exposed to a few neighbors in a small community or neighborhood then couples did meet, marry, and stay together for a lifetime as did my parents who met in the sixth grade.

Regardless of how long or short a relationship may be, you have to be the gallent leader of the "pack" and make the decision and also the ongoing effort to make the relationship work. You should never adopt the typical male pattern behavior of "well, I went all out for her, spent money on dates and gifts, proposed, all so I could sit back in my lounger, watch TV, and burp down a few cool-ones from then on out, expecting my meals to be served and the laundry to be done.

[moose_hd]

I know two guys at work who met their present girlfriends about eight years ago in high school when they were ~16 years old.

They are now both engaged with weddings planned for 2007.